dancehead Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Hi Long time since last here on the forums. I have met a girl on a dating site as you do. We had been chatting for 4 weeks by IM, then only a week ago we tried a video call. We seem to have hit it off big time, so since then we are contact nearly every single day over whatsapp and have had marathon video calls of 3-6 hours at a time. So only a week and 4 calls later and we are talking about meeting up for a date. But she is in another country - lives a 90 minute plane journey from me, I was going to fly to her, but then she suggested she flies to me to start with. She is going to book some days off work to make it a longer trip. This has all came out of nowhere. I actually for the first time in years see potential here to be really happy if we get on as well in person as we do on cam. As excited as I am about all this and as much as I am really happy that such an attractive girl is coming to see me (a fairly average guy) I keep thinking this is all too good to be true. Do you see any alarm bells anywhere? Its very trusting of her to to come and see a guy she barely knows for 4 days but I suppose its the same for me, I don't know her that well either. She could be a criminal/serial killer LOL. Should I go with it and stop worrying? Any advice would be great thanks.
Author dancehead Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Thanks. A red flag has popped up! She has told me that I am paying for her flight. I said "Am I now - I assumed when you offered to come here instead of me going to you that you would get your own flight, that's normal" She asked if I was a gentleman and said the cost to me would be the same if I was flying to her as me flying her to me. Hmmm that's true but I still don't like it. So in the end she said OK I don't want you to think badly of me so I will get my own flight. But she can't afford to keep doing it often. So.... I feel very uneasy about this even still. As I said before, stuff like this doesn't usually happen to me I am just a normal guy and she is stunning that's why I was wary. I suppose if she gets her own flight then that's ok but now it really makes me question other things about it. Now whats the advice after this development?
TB Rhine Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Next she will contact you, frantic because she missed a connecting flight and is now stranded in some godawful Eastern European country and can't afford to fly back home. She will beg you to western union her some money. Basically, points if the 'other country' she lives in is Canada or anywhere English-speaking (preferably Western Europe). Points off if said country is Thailand, Nigeria, Russia, or anywhere in the former Soviet Union.
Author dancehead Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Well she lives in Western Europe and there is no connecting flight, she is flying straight from A to B. She has booked and paid for the flight now so I am happy but still uneasy as things are going so well. We get on so well -- she says all the right things a bit of a smoothie who I could madly fall for.... that I am expecting something to spoil it. Its almost like we have an unsaid relationship even though we haven't met. I still think that she is either after money in some way (marriage?) or something else. Or she actually is genuine and for the first time in my life there is a potential for mutual love, which is why the risk is worth it to see, is it not?
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