Eroded Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 (edited) I made a thread a few days ago about my marriage and whatnot. Since then, we've tried to set up marriage counseling but the places we call either don't have a marriage therapist on hand or have a two to three month waiting list (which we put ourselves on anyway). Either way, I'm once again, for the umpteenth time, stuck at home, working a super insanely busy and stressful shift (work from home tech support) while he just went out for pizza with his school friends, claiming it's for "networking opportunities" again and that he has to go because one of his classmates is depending on him to pick him up. He probably won't be home for 2-3 hours. His parents came over on Monday to talk to us, and basically just told me that I should get a quickie drive-thru college degree online so I can financially support him more. He doesn't seem to see any urgency to change our situation; just wants me to find a way to change it. It's taking all of my energy to not tell my workplace that I'm not feeling well, pack up my computer, my pets, and some clothes, and driving the hour to my mom's house. Guess I just needed to vent. I'm. So. Drained. EDIT: For the record, I love him, but I just can't take being front and center to him getting whatever he wants anymore. It's too much to see. Edited September 19, 2013 by Eroded
stan7818 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 While you are waiting for the marriage counselor, try to get him to sit down without any distractions from the outside world (i.e. cell phones, computers, friends) and tell him honestly how his actions are affecting you. Don’t try to criticize him though because this will just lead to more arguments. My advise though is to not run away from the problem by going to your mom’s house. Talk to him with a calm voice with no accusations. Use statements that show how you feel when he does what you don’t like. Hang in there!
Clay Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Marriage is a two week street. I think you are right it does not sound like he is supportive nor is his family. Another thing you might want to consider is finding a different line of work. I am a Voice Engineer and I have worked all the way through the things you are talking about and they do destroy relationships. This line of work is extremely stressful and you never get any praise. You have to be a very strong willed person to survive and be able to build yourself up while others are trying to tear you down. I have pushed my kids away from this line of work. I am not saying you can not do it I am sure you probably are very good at it if you can do it from home. I hope you are able to figure out a way of getting to your husband. Clay
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