Balzac Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Apparently you put no credence in prenuptial agreements.
reddragon588 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Financial stability and desire for children are HUGE parts of a relationship. If you feel you are not compatible in those areas, you are not compatible! That's not nitpicking you should feel 100% comfortable ending the relationship over this!
JDPT Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 My intentions aren't to belittle you or make you feel terrible in any way. However, you would agree that you come across highly indifferent to any other matter but finances. It's unfortunate that this individual doesn't know how to properly manage his finances. At the end of the day you must do what's best for you and you only. He clearly does not meet criteria so why bother moving forward. A relationship is not solely based on love, however, this is a crucial factor in order to make true progress. Once again, you appear to be determined with your decision and executing now or latter is clearly irrelevant to you. And that's perfectly fine if this is the decision that you will like to proceed with.
darkmoon Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 (edited) people are telling the OP not to see the money side of this, but feeding a grown man 24/7 costs money, seen generous girls idealizing their relationship wanting to be out of pocket, and not respected for it, but thinking it looks sweeter not to ask for cash for bills, trying to be nice I know somebody will write and tell me I am too into money, okay, but I see a bad (naïve) lifestyle choice on these paying girls, seen men get paid for by woman after woman, srs, not just one this is a grown man, well old, who can not run his life, hell, anybody ought to know you/they need a back-up plan, or a bit of money saved for a rainy day, he must know all this, he's not some newbie student in his first job going wrong, this is not young love Edited September 20, 2013 by darkmoon
headinthecloud Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 There's a great saying, "if you have to ask then you already know the answer." Supporting him emotionally is more important. Let him figure out his own financial challenges - he should not put that on you. It sounds like you already went on a limb to help him with the $1k and his lack of initiative to repay it is very telling. You sound as though you are already resigned that you don't compliment one another. When you meet be right person there are rarely concerns about living together, and everything else works out somehow. Sounds like you two aren't a match but he needs your emotional support right now. Be a friend as he goes through this transition.
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