saltygirl01 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 So, Let's keep this short and to the point.. its easy for me to ramble! I left my Ex about 5 months ago - he was crazy, issues, drinking stuff - whatever. So I am dating a wonderful man and I am happy - he is ALSO dating someone and he says he is also happy. However - I saw him about a month ago because there were some important valuables that I realized I left in his (formerly my) shed. I asked to get them and expected them to be waiting on the porch. Not so much! He was home and wanted to chat. Long story short - he ended up telling me (as he consumed a bottle of wine in about 5 minutes (as i dug through the bins looking for my things) and a few beers, that he was in love with me, she was a lot of drama (ex husband and child drama) and how he would do anything to have me back and if i just stayed with him he would leave her and be happily ever after with me - she is just filling a void and he is trying to pick up where we left off with another woman. Well, I high-tailed it out of there and he continued to text me until 2 am asking why HIM (my new boyfriend) and not him (my ex) The next day he told me that he didn't want to hurt me again, he is so in love with me but since I made up my mind to stay w my new boyfrined that he was going to focus on who was in his life now and she makes him happy and he needed to treat her with respect but he wouldn't be a stranger bc he loves me - ok whatever. Fast forward - last sunday, he randomly messaged me around 4 making a joke about our favorite NFL team and checking in on my father (who has been recovering from cancer) I was with my current boyfriend and staying at his house that weekend he CONTINUES to text me around 10 pm - by sending me a PICTURE of himself, no shirt, shorts pulled super low in a mirror and says "GQ?" then says hes looking to "sell his body to pay the bills these days.. ;)" and asks how I am and if everything is running smoothly in my life. sounded like he was seeking an opportunity in my mind.. well TODAY he emailed me to say he was still dating his gf and they are "So happy and she keeps him in check with reality and he likes that" um, what? I decided to say that surprised me and that he shouldn't message me anymore with pictures or anything for that matter since we are both happy in new relationships and his response "well i just thought it was a funny picture - figured you would laugh and hey maybe I can make some coin off of it.." what?! I am confused. Is he just crazy or putting feelers out there when he is hammered to see if I'll give in to some booty? I guess it really doesn't matter, but my girlfriends and I were all wondering what the hell his motives are. I think the best course of action is to just stop responding altogether.. I know that if my boyfriend's ex was sending him pictures of HERSELF in a mirror, I'd freak or assume something was up.. thoughts? thanks in advance.
JDPT Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 You know exactly what to do. Apply vigorous NC and he will eventually stop, the end. 1
Author saltygirl01 Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 yeah i sort of figured that out after writing it.. just wondering what the hell the motive was behind it - but yes, in essence, im just as guilty for responding, even if i am saying stop it.
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