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I made a promise that I would come back to this site and write my 1 yearjourney so someone could maybe be inspired. Maybe, someone who reads this canrealize that they (you) will be fine and one day happy again.

Recap: A year ago my fiancé who I lived and dated withalmost 3 years came in one evening and gave me the engagement ring back and Idecided to leave that same night (as a cool off). I came back within the week(from my parents) to see if we can reconcile but it was too late. She wanted tomove on, and I gave it to her.

Transition: I'm not going to lie,it was REALLY ROUGH. I wanted to know everything about her and see what she wasup to but for some reason I did well and I did not look her up all the time onsocial media or through friends. My ex and I have had very little contact overthis past year actually almost none at all. She started dating someone elsewithin the month of us breaking up. Maybe that's why I didn't look her up whenwe first broke up because in the beginning I would have been devastated. Ifound out 5 months later of her transition, which hurt but not as much. I beganto focus a lot on myself and my goals in life which I (not her) put on hold.Here's what I did

-I purchased a single family home in the Washington DC area (extremely hardto do)

-Started my MBA, which I am now 50% complete

-Traveled to a festival in Belgium that I've wanted to attend for many years

-Have the gym as my daily routine

-Focused on work, which got me a promotion

Where I am now: Well I am singlebut it's solely by choice because I am not ready for any commitment. I have metamazing and beautiful women who enjoy spending time with me and I enjoyspending time with them. I also enjoy the benefits of being single and enjoywhat life has to offer. That I didn't experience with my ex. I am now at thepoint where I'll think about her and be thankful for her making that ultimatedecision for the both of us, because she truly gave me my life back.

My Advice: I know you're lookingfor answers on "how to get them back" or try to relate to every storyyou read on here. Hell, I've even gone to palm readers and tarot readers forthem to tell me what I wanted to hear, which was all lies. The truth is you'llhear what you want to hear and read what you want to read. If your ex broke upwith you or vice versa then try to focus on YOU. It's truly the most empoweringthing you can do. You will move on and if you don't date anyone then that'sfine but you will be happy again I guarantee it.

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I broke up with my ex gf of 9 years, 4 months ago. then this past weekend I saw her sitting in my "friends" car, apperently there dating, it's hard to Handel on top the break up its self. I hope I reach the point you have but it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel

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Nvmx thanks for coming back to share your story.

 

I try and preach, that everyone will get thru this.

 

Youre proof.

 

Continue on your journey and don't stop walking forward

 

 

Best of luck!

 

 

 

Barky

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I made a promise that I would come back to this site and write my 1 yearjourney so someone could maybe be inspired. Maybe, someone who reads this canrealize that they (you) will be fine and one day happy again.

Recap: A year ago my fiancé who I lived and dated withalmost 3 years came in one evening and gave me the engagement ring back and Idecided to leave that same night (as a cool off). I came back within the week(from my parents) to see if we can reconcile but it was too late. She wanted tomove on, and I gave it to her.

Transition: I'm not going to lie,it was REALLY ROUGH. I wanted to know everything about her and see what she wasup to but for some reason I did well and I did not look her up all the time onsocial media or through friends. My ex and I have had very little contact overthis past year actually almost none at all. She started dating someone elsewithin the month of us breaking up. Maybe that's why I didn't look her up whenwe first broke up because in the beginning I would have been devastated. Ifound out 5 months later of her transition, which hurt but not as much. I beganto focus a lot on myself and my goals in life which I (not her) put on hold.Here's what I did

-I purchased a single family home in the Washington DC area (extremely hardto do)

-Started my MBA, which I am now 50% complete

-Traveled to a festival in Belgium that I've wanted to attend for many years

-Have the gym as my daily routine

-Focused on work, which got me a promotion

Where I am now: Well I am singlebut it's solely by choice because I am not ready for any commitment. I have metamazing and beautiful women who enjoy spending time with me and I enjoyspending time with them. I also enjoy the benefits of being single and enjoywhat life has to offer. That I didn't experience with my ex. I am now at thepoint where I'll think about her and be thankful for her making that ultimatedecision for the both of us, because she truly gave me my life back.

My Advice: I know you're lookingfor answers on "how to get them back" or try to relate to every storyyou read on here. Hell, I've even gone to palm readers and tarot readers forthem to tell me what I wanted to hear, which was all lies. The truth is you'llhear what you want to hear and read what you want to read. If your ex broke upwith you or vice versa then try to focus on YOU. It's truly the most empoweringthing you can do. You will move on and if you don't date anyone then that'sfine but you will be happy again I guarantee it.

 

 

thats great well done you!!

 

you have come along way, i have been to palm readers and tarrorts readers which they said he will be back to me. but obviously he wont because they was telling me what i want to hear. gave me lies

 

i really hope i can be where you are soon :)

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Nvmx thanks for coming back to share your story.

 

I try and preach, that everyone will get thru this.

 

Youre proof.

 

Continue on your journey and don't stop walking forward

 

 

Best of luck!

 

 

Barky

 

Thank you, I remember reading someone's 1yr post and I felt like I would never make it to that point. I was wrong

 

thats great well done you!!

 

you have come along way, i have been to palm readers and tarrorts readers which they said he will be back to me. but obviously he wont because they was telling me what i want to hear. gave me lies

 

i really hope i can be where you are soon :)

 

Trust me when i tell you.. YOU WILL

 

Well done you & thanks for sharing

 

Thank you all for the support and Love shack for getting me through this as well

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AWESOME!!!!

 

Hey, thanks for coming back and sharing!! Everything you're doing sounds fantastic!!! How was Belgium? I want to go and try their waffles... hee...hee...

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