Mr Scorpio Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 So, I had the fortunate circumstance of my ex co-signing on a car which I purchased back in 2006. Now that it is time to sell it, I need her to sign-off on the title. There was no way around it. So, I type her name into the address bar on my e-mail client, and what pops up? A new profile pic, of her at the altar with her new husband! I've wondered for over ten years what it would feel like when I finally had to confront this cold reality. Stupid DMV.
Author Mr Scorpio Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 I contemplated sending her a text instead of an e-mail. That likely would have saved me from this knowledge. Still, she may have brought it up on her own, and I have assumed for over a year that she was hitched anyways. It didn't/doesn't hurt as badly as I would have expected, but it is still a sad day. This is someone I've known for over twenty years, since I was twelve and she was thirteen. She was the only woman I've ever known who made any effort to keep in touch, to call me up to hang-out, send me holiday cards, etc. When we started dating, for me it was like the end of a highschool-romance, where the guy gets the girl. I can close my eyes and instantly transport myself to any number of memories, although I know I shouldn't. I had my chance. I had my chance and I blew it. It was the ultimate case of GIGS, and now I don't trust myself enough to assume that it wouldn't happen again with another woman. Maybe this sort of finality is a good thing. Maybe it will force me to let go of whatever-it-is I've been holding onto in regard to her. I guess I can finally go back on FB now. Still, today is the day where I know for certain that "the one who got away" actually got away. /End rant for now
AnyaNova Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Sorry to hear that. The reality in some ways must be both better and worse than you feared. I wish you peace, but know that it must be difficult to find right now.
love1336x Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 You should called her. Texting and email will make her stall for time. On less she doesn't picked up. But phone called is more direct.
Author Mr Scorpio Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 She responded to the email. I did my best to only skim it, looking for the address to send the car title to. Oddly, she provided me with her work address instead of her home address. Shrug. So long as I get the title signed. So, I guess that is that. Pragmatically, the situation isn't any different. She hasn't been in my life for the past three years, and she isn't now. I had already assumed that she was married prior to contacting her. And after how she treated me the last time around, I should be glad that I can have a sense of finality. Still, damn. It could have been so perfect. Could have this and that. Better to have loved and lost. So on and such. I just wonder how long it'll take me to reach a point where I don't care about what could have been, and what I gave up.
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