fresh-one Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 A little back round... Me and my ex were with each other for about 9 years, lived with each other around 6 of them. I'm 26 and she is 25. In those 9 years we have broken up a few times, twice for about a month each, and 1 long one for almost a year. The break up now happened in May so about 4 months ago. In July she had reached out to me via email, told me she loved/hated me, told me she missed me and wanted to get together and talk... Nothing ever came of it. So over thigh past weekend I had the shock of a lifetime, I pull into 7-11, look over at the car to the right, and the she is in the passenger seat of my "friends" car. I walked over to the car said to her are you serious with a friend of mine are you serious? He exact words back were "I don't like you" so I turn around and walked away, saw him coming out of 711 so I walked up to him and said seriously are you ef'n serious? He said wut? Put his head down and walked away. I litterally started shaking, I felt like she stabbed me in the heart and he stabbed me in the back. These past few days have been rough, a part of me can't stop think wut is going threw her mind and his? They recently went to a show together that my other buddy's band was playin, I wasn't there thank god but I could have been so obviously they don't care. Any thoughts or incites would be appriciated, oh and I'm not a hundred percent sure but it seems they spend all the time together and basically picked with the relationship that we ended, people tell me let it go, forget about it, it's just a rebound, but god does it hurt, I'm now obsessively thinking about the two of them and driving myself nuts... HELP! And just a side not in the summer of 2006 she filed a rape complaint against this guys cousin, to me that's one of the sickest things about all of this I think I wasted a decade of my life
lookingforbalance Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I am right with you brother. She broke up with me 6 1/2 weeks ago, and then 13 days ago announced via FB that she was in a relationship with one of my good friends. Floored, I found out through one of my friends who was still friends on FB with her, she called and told me. That night I went and confronted him and said what the hell? I misjudged him, he is a weak, self-serving f**k**g coward, and that is exactly what I told him to his face. Her and I work at the same facility, she had the nerve to call me the next day and wanted to know if I was going to cause her trouble at work, as she needed her job to pay bills. I wouldn't do that to an enemy, let alone the woman whom which I gave the last two years of my life. Very disappointing that she thought I would do that, after the way I treated her over the relationship. I have no respect for either of them with the way they have acted, I have lost a friend in the process, who obviously wasn't a friend in the first place, and my heart is left shattered, then stabbed and ran over. And I thought she couldn't hurt me any more. I was wrong. I wish I had words of comfort or direction, all you can do is accept the pain, walk through the fire, and do what it takes to heal as you walk it. As much as the heart wants it, there is no turning back from this, without losing all dignity and self-respect. We have to do what it takes to move forward and not let this defeat us. Easier said that done when your heart is true for the person that hurt you. I love someone unconditionally whose behavior is deplorable, and I have no idea how to handle that.
gaius Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 There is no such thing as a male friend. Men who you socialize with on occasion sure, but none who won't invade your territory if ever given the opportunity. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Rough sauce!! No doubt about it. But now you know their true colors and neither of these 'wastes of breath' deserve you to even think one more second about them. Hard is it may sound, forget about both of these numb nuts and move on. You deserve a better woman and better friends!!!
Mr Scorpio Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I think I wasted a decade of my life Maybe. Maybe not. If you watched a really great movie/sporting event/concert that ended on a low-note, would you consider the entire event a waste? Or would you look back on the good-parts and simply lament how things ended? I don't have a good answer to that myself, but it is certainly a question worth asking.
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