HeartInPieces Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I'm obsessed... Every time I do it I tell myself its the last time. I just HAVE TO KNOW WHAT SHE IS UP TO! After five years together this is really tough. I can't control myself. Even though most times I check its stuff that just brings me down. How she's out having a blast... What she looks like now. She's so beautiful... FML.
HereWeGoAgain1 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Use the block function. Once you block you can't unblock again for 48hours. If you can make it through those 48 hours and you're still alive...which you will be. Then you can make it for life. Don't unblock either because they'll notice they can't find you anymore if they're looking but if they keep looking and see you suddenly appear and then disappear again it looks weak...because it is. Stay strong. 2
malin819 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 had the same problem Just block like the other poster said. My ex is still blocked even if I saw her for the whole week. Trust on me on this I unblocked her once 4-5 weeks ago and WORSE mistake I have made...some stuff is better not to be known 1
malin819 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 keep in mind she might assume that you look up her facebook (my ex did) and they'll put a bunch of comments and pictures that will hurt you 2
Eddie007 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I was with my ex for 4 years. I deactivated my Facebook account all together the day she dumped me. It has been over a month and I have no desire to look her up. I was a Facebook stalker with a previous ex and it took me close to a year to move on because every time I looked at it I felt worse. I know it's tough but I feel almost free by not being on FB. I know it seems drastic but I want the pain gone ASAP. It has really helped. I will eventually get back on but not for a long while. You have to cut her out completely. It's probably the most difficult decision to make but it's almost a must. I don't think you should ever shut the door on a past relationship forever, but its a must right after the split. Both of you can move on and heal. 1
RedHawk08 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Uninstall the Facebook app. Then install Facebook Messenger on it's own. That way, all your lazy friends and family can stay in touch still. Facebook is, in my opinion, the worst place for people with relationship troubles. Too much can be read into. Too many people can't resist interfering either innocently or maliciously. See how much your attitude toward life and your situation improves without FB. 2
tiredofthinkingofyou Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I once read something that said "don't contact them or look at social media until you know you'd be okay with them being intimate with someone else and you knowing about it." It's literally that simple. If you know that the second you see she's with someone else your entire world will fall apart, then you need to just block her. And one day when you're all moved on and ready, you can always unblock and add her back. Or even better, one day maybe you won't even care! =] I had to block my ex because I'm absolutely TERRIFIED of finding out if he's with someone else. I asked all my friends to delete him too so they wouldn't find anything out. Trust me it's insanely difficult at first, but it'll make you feel so much better in the long run.
JDPT Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I used to have the same obsessive mentality. It's been close to 5 months and I this point that obsessiveness has subsided substantially. Luckily my ex didn't have a FB for me to check up but she does have a business website that I would log into to know what she was up to. At this point, I've burnt myself too many times that I think I've learned to stay away from the fire and eventually you will as well.
fresh-one Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I broke up with my ex gf of 9 years 4 months ago, did the FB spying everyday, never got any info, then this past weekend I saw her sitting in my "friends" car, apperently there dating. What I learned from this is, what you don't know can't hurt you and what you find out can't be unlearned. Ask yourself what you have to gain other than pain
Ireallydontknow Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Stab yourself in the thigh. Okay, did that feel good? Do it again. Still doesn't feel good? Fine, do it once more. Oh, wow, that still hurts? Keep on stabbing that wound. This is what you are doing. I would never check her Facebook. 1. She is fake. 2. She is a liar. 3. Facebook is a great tool for fakes and liars to seem important. I did look at some of her pictures at one point, all it did was piss me off not make me sad. She's blocked, so she'll never show up again. She has no ties to me anymore. So go ahead block that b****! 2
JDPT Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Stab yourself in the thigh. Okay, did that feel good? Do it again. Still doesn't feel good? Fine, do it once more. Oh, wow, that still hurts? Keep on stabbing that wound. This is what you are doing. I would never check her Facebook. 1. She is fake. 2. She is a liar. 3. Facebook is a great tool for fakes and liars to seem important. I did look at some of her pictures at one point, all it did was piss me off not make me sad. She's blocked, so she'll never show up again. She has no ties to me anymore. So go ahead block that b****! Woah! I like that. This should work much better than snapping a rubber band on your wrist.
No_closure Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I just made a thread earlier about this lol I know your pain and the urge to just look at what they are up to. I only looked once a few days ago to see if he made one (he never had one before) and I felt sorry for him because he looks MISERABLE and DESPERATE!!! He is trying to add all these people who never liked him and who he talked crap about and he is just a FAKE!!!! No one "likes" anything he was posting, no one comments, he is a moron. I was fighting the urge this morning to look at it. But you know what? I got to see him looking like a crackhead fool and desperate and I think I will leave that on a good note for me. Me always remembering how pathetic his Facebook is and how hard he is trying to fill the void of me being gone. So yeah, DO NOT LOOK!! No matter what. NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!! I keep telling myself this. Just DON'T!! Unless you want to start a war and send them angry messages and whatever. But if you are on NC then you will break NC fast if you look. Stay strong, all of us! 1
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