Fugee Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 my story is posted on another thread. basically my ex was unhappy because she said she can't trust me, i couldn't make her happy, and she thinks i blackmailed her. she said thats there's a perfect man out there, and she's looking for him, but its not me. she has standards way too high for anyone to reach in a short amount of time. i told her i can go back and finish school, get help for my depression...but she said she doesn't want to wait, says she wants it now, wants to start a family right away. this really sucks because just earlier this year i was the perfect man in her eyes. that i was different than any other man she's been with in a good way. how should i feel about my situation?
Chi townD Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 THIS!!! This is a good example of GIGS!! Yes, she has GIGS and there's really nothing you can do about it except move on and make those changes you proposed, but do them for YOURSELF; not for her. I'm tired of reading threads of guys asking if my girlfriend slept with a football team if she has GIGS or not. 1
No_closure Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I am about to post a thread of what I think my husband is doing... But for your situation, it DOES sound like GIGS. It comes out of no where and you are left wondering what happened when everything seemed so well. 1
barky2 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 It doesn't matter if its gigs digs migs pigs or whatever! The fact is the relationship, at this point, is over. Everyone holds onto false hope thinking their ex has gigs and will come back. Let go and move on with your life If they come back, deal with it then. Right now they do not. So carry on as if they're not coming back. Sorry to be harsh...u just needed a slap Barky 3
Author Fugee Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 i think she has a problem with unconditional love. i was perfect until she finds something she doesn't like, and removes her love all the sudden.
Chi townD Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 All the more reason to move on. You want a girl that's going to love you unconditionally, even with or without your faults.
RedHawk08 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 GIGS is always there at the end of a relationship. If the existing situation has turned crappy, and they don't have the interest or strength to make it better, the grass will appear greener elsewhere. Anywhere! I had severe depression and then my marriage crashed and burned. But if you can rise up, fix your flaws and be an even better man than you were when you met... Well she'll either come back or you'll be having the best revenge of all. That is living well! 1
CptSaveAho Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 no way on gigs .... look in the mirror bro 1)depressed 2)didnt finish school probably not doing much with your life... no offense, i wouldnt date a girl in those shoes fix your mess
Author Fugee Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 no way on gigs .... look in the mirror bro 1)depressed 2)didnt finish school probably not doing much with your life... no offense, i wouldnt date a girl in those shoes fix your mess i have my own company, became an entrepreneur at 21 and had this job for the past 5 years. i quit school so i could focus on that. didn't need a degree.
No_closure Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 no way on gigs .... look in the mirror bro 1)depressed 2)didnt finish school probably not doing much with your life... no offense, i wouldnt date a girl in those shoes fix your mess That was uncalled for. They were in a relationship, it wasn't a date and found out he's depressed then never call back for a 2nd date. It was a relationship! If you truly LOVE someone, you will stay by them through their depression and whatever. I know everyone has their breaking point but it's not true love if they just ditch you. 2
Author Fugee Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 That was uncalled for. They were in a relationship, it wasn't a date and found out he's depressed then never call back for a 2nd date. It was a relationship! If you truly LOVE someone, you will stay by them through their depression and whatever. I know everyone has their breaking point but it's not true love if they just ditch you. you're so right, we had a long relationship, and we really did love each other in the beginning. what that dude was saying about me was pretty rude, and naive.
Author Fugee Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 GIGS is always there at the end of a relationship. If the existing situation has turned crappy, and they don't have the interest or strength to make it better, the grass will appear greener elsewhere. Anywhere! I had severe depression and then my marriage crashed and burned. But if you can rise up, fix your flaws and be an even better man than you were when you met... Well she'll either come back or you'll be having the best revenge of all. That is living well! well she never wants to see me or hear from me, i don't know how to prove myself.
stormer1092 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Ya know I went through a similar situation after college. I went through depression and really didn't have any drive to get a job or anything. She ended up leaving me and getting with another guy because of it and It was really a eye opener to me. At first it was "I will change just don't leave me" but now its like I'm doing this **** for myself. She blamed ME for her not being happy! But I'm becoming a better person now. She also is going through the whole gigs thing herself.
barky2 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 How do you prove yourself? To who? Someone who walked away? Prove something to yourself. Pickup your beanbag,man up, and carry on. Enjoying the rest of your life and success is the ultimate payback. Barky 2
Author Fugee Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 i can relate to that song from Cee Lo - F*ck You! 1
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