Jadedbyluv Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I wrote about the guy I was dating. We seemed to have a good connection. Things were fine until one weekend. Long story short, he said he had packed it in and was going with his gut. A few days after this he texted me, he asked me to hang out. I was hesitant but I agreed. It was a fun night and afterwards, he said let's do it again later this week. I thought this was a good sign. So later in the week, I follow up about our plans. And he didn't respond. At this point, I knew he wasn't going to follow through. He did text saying he was at a football game and that's the last I have heard from him. It's been about a week since this all went down. I'm still really hurt he just disappeared. Why even bothering contacting me again if you're just going to disappear? I guess it hurts because while dating he said he wouldn't hurt me. And it just seems disrespectful. He told me in the past he's been a jerk and was older and more mature. It just seems like the jerk thing to do. Maybe it was easier to take the easy way out instead of being upfront with me. But don't people realize sometimes this hurts way more? I put my profile back up on an OLD site just to try and go on more dates. Take my mind off him. And I've seen that he has checked my profile. Just annoyed me more. Why do people claim to be changed then do stuff like this? Why bother contacting me if you knew full well you had no real intentions of seeing me again? Why make plans just to break them off? How can I get over this quicker and stop letting me feel down? Should I let him know that he hurt me?
Kelly15 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Sounds like a tool. Don't reply to his next text and go on those dates. Having your emotions played with is really hurtful. He's showing these signs in front so get out now
truth_seeker Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 What's funny is that women do this, too! I do my best to be a gentleman and have come across women who have been scorned in the past and take out their anger on me.
cif Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 YUCK. No way should you give him the ego boost of telling him he hurt you. Just ignore him.
truth_seeker Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I wrote about the guy I was dating. We seemed to have a good connection. Things were fine until one weekend. Long story short, he said he had packed it in and was going with his gut. A few days after this he texted me, he asked me to hang out. I was hesitant but I agreed. It was a fun night and afterwards, he said let's do it again later this week. I thought this was a good sign. So later in the week, I follow up about our plans. And he didn't respond. At this point, I knew he wasn't going to follow through. He did text saying he was at a football game and that's the last I have heard from him. It's been about a week since this all went down. I'm still really hurt he just disappeared. Why even bothering contacting me again if you're just going to disappear? I guess it hurts because while dating he said he wouldn't hurt me. And it just seems disrespectful. He told me in the past he's been a jerk and was older and more mature. It just seems like the jerk thing to do. Maybe it was easier to take the easy way out instead of being upfront with me. But don't people realize sometimes this hurts way more? I put my profile back up on an OLD site just to try and go on more dates. Take my mind off him. And I've seen that he has checked my profile. Just annoyed me more. Why do people claim to be changed then do stuff like this? Why bother contacting me if you knew full well you had no real intentions of seeing me again? Why make plans just to break them off? How can I get over this quicker and stop letting me feel down? Should I let him know that he hurt me? I have to ask: did you do anything to make him want to disappear? I met a girl earlier this year and we hit it off. I noticed her getting cold so I backed off for a bit. I followed up and the flirting got hot again. I then disappeared. I did this because I felt she was a flake and in the long run would only hurt me. Well, she reacted like you - she got hurt I disappeared and literally came after me like a woman scorned. I'm not saying you're at fault, but from my experience, I disappeared because I felt the woman was going to hurt me. I beat her to the punch so to speak. Is this going on here with you?
Author Jadedbyluv Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 No. None of that. I don't do stuff like that. My only thought was him getting out of a serious relationship earlier this year and I was just a rebound. It started to get more serious than he wanted so that's what he did.
truth_seeker Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 No. None of that. I don't do stuff like that. My only thought was him getting out of a serious relationship earlier this year and I was just a rebound. It started to get more serious than he wanted so that's what he did. Sounds like you hit the nail on the head and got your answer. You should have been aware of this before you started to like him.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 Sounds like you hit the nail on the head and got your answer. You should have been aware of this before you started to like him. I've always wondered how do you avoid being the rebound. It's happened a few times.
truth_seeker Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I've always wondered how do you avoid being the rebound. It's happened a few times. Timing. If you're the first person he's dating after the break up, you're the rebound. If you're the second or third person, then you're not.
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