deelong Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 (edited) This is my first post by the way guys... so glad a website like this exists as I have had nobody to talk to. Anyway here's my situation. I met this girl guys not in a pub or at school but online. we started talking for ages id say about 4 months and I was starting to like her, seemed like she felt the same. so one day I decided we needed to meet. I asked her and she said no. I thought this was because of my age (I'm 19 and she's 24) so I didn't really take it to heart coz I'll admit I didn't think she would say yes. however a month went by. During that month we spoke like evrryday and I was working saving up and decided to buy a car. and I told her about this, then asked of I could come and see her (she lived on her own) this time she said yes. bare in mind she said no before so clearly this was because I got a car. I drove to her house were in her garden jus talking she seemed happy I was too. we ended up getting together two weeks later. this was great as i was working n drove I was taking her out every chance I got.. spent money on her (got her jewellery) she spent money on me too it was perfect. I started stopping at hers evryday.. mom and dad wanted to kick me ou bcoz of this. we had great sex everything was great then she told me she had to estonia (her home.country) to visit her mom n friends and I had no.problem with that what so ever. she ended up goin I drove her to the station. this is about two months since we gt together. as soon as she touched down she jus seemed like she was showing her true colours. on whatsapp id get ignored but she's clearly online. I didn't hear a word from.her for almost 4 days. not on fb, bit she was posting pics on instagram n all. on the day she decided to reply I decided enough was enough. I told her I didn't like being ignored as it made me miss her n I needed to know she's okay. her responce was cold. she told me that she didn't miss me n she doesn't think we have a future, this broke my heart into pieces. I however broke up with her after that statement but I guess that's what she wanted. I quit my job, lost my car as I didn't have anymore. I felt used. even tho it was two months it was the best time of my life. she's coming back next month n I jus wanna know whyyy she did this to me. I think about her everyday even tho theres been NC. its tearing me apart . Edited September 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Philosoraptor Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 It was a fling, nothing serious. When she left that was the end of it for her. You wanted more than she did and when that happens it always leads to a relationship failure. She left, after that you're doing all of this to yourself. She wasn't worth quitting your job, almost getting kicked out of your house, and losing your car for. Can I assume you're not very experienced in dating or relationships?
Author deelong Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 hurts knowing that even though I know its true. I have dated a lot of girls in the past.. I stopped dating girls coz.I was waiting to.find.someone id last with.. before I met her I had been single.for.about a year.... guess I mistook her for that person. it jus felt.so.right I even went on to making a song about her :s. stupid yes I know. its so.clear she doesn't give a f**k. I jus didn't know whyy she did this to me. she seemed like the perfect girlfriend. so there's basically no poibt trying to talk to her even when she's back??? wow this hurts so bad. lol I hate myself for this now im catching buses all because of her.
Philosoraptor Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Yep, you'd be wasting your time trying to get back with someone who would drop you so easily. And use that as motivation to get back on the right track. Find a good job, get a new car, and continue to better yourself for you. 1
Author deelong Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 (edited) you know what..... I'm gunna do exactly that. I started a new job Monday. jus happened so fast. okay I will try that. and thank you so much for listening. this has made my day atleast now I know how I'm supposed to deal with this. I will save up again n get a new car again. Edited September 19, 2013 by deelong
Author deelong Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 hey, i took ur advice n all but she ended up coming back to me. we're like, back together now.. cant really say how i feel though atm but im jus gunna act cool and see how it goes.
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