SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Hey gang, so in my previous threads I wrote about how messed up I was about a cheating ex who left me for my friend....a few months ago, I was freshly dealing with it. Still am, but basically, what's been happening lately is after dating/sleeping with a couple of guys/girl, my ex came back for a week saying she missed me terribly. It was nice but she didn't come back like I wanted, wasn't overly apologetic. I was dumb for that slip up, I know. My mom has been in the hospital for the past week. My ex texted me right when that happened and asked for her guitar back, said she was gonna get "lessons." I told her about my mom and a week went by and I get a text that says, "hows your mom?" I said, "wow. I gave up on you." she said, "Ive been busy and let time slip away from me." I said, "with your new bf?" she said, "im seeing someone, yes." so I told her to never contact me again. that shes done enough. she said ok. my thing is, it hurts so much that someone who was basically family for 3 years and the only person I want closest is the person who has hurt me the most. I am taking a facebook break, defriended her, but am asking, now that I am FINALLY ready to go NC, how do I deal with it during these difficult times? Was I right to tell her to F**k off? even though I wish I had her by my side? It wouldnt be right knowing she'd leave just to go bang the 4th guy she's dated since our breakup. Im just not handling this breakup well at all. Feel totally rejected and then this happens....it sucks.
denxnis Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Yeah, a lot of people on here have said a lot worst. Only thing I can really tell you is that ANY and I mean ANY attention you give her will just make her feel better about her decision. 1
RiceaRoni Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 You did the right thing. Yourself and your feelings come before hers. She hurt you in such a way that it's okay to tell her she needs to stay out of your life. I've recently had to do the same. It's not easy, but if it's for your own self, it sometimes needs to be done. And I hope your mother is doing alright. 2
Author SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 cos yes, my mom is WAY MORE important. she is better today, but basically if she does not improve in a week, I may have to start considering A) taking her off life support or B) deciding if I want her to make it back w/ having to be reliant on dialysis and a tracheostomy. The reason why I wrote about the ex thing is b/c she hasn't really left me alone while we've been broken up. It made me think I held a special place and that there was some genuine regret on her side but I've figured out now it's just when single life or the guy she's trying to date doesn't give her the ego boost she needs. So, when you're in the hospital, you really find out who your friends are. You find out who will text you nonstop, or at least once a day, or who says, "im so sorry", then texts a week later. A text from a girl you're hung up on who knew your situation for 3 years could step up and be there even in a minimal way. I have my priorities straight, I just guess it took this to show me my ex's TRUEST colors. on a side note, been weird that all the girls that have shown any interest in me since this happened with the breakup happen to have boyfriends....it's a weird paradox to be in, but I'm just waiting for someone with no drama to come...i'm gonna take some time off.
Chi townD Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I thought you were supposed to be on the road? What happened with that? Can't really give you anymore advice. I've been telling you to go NC since day one.
reddragon588 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 You did the right thing. And I'm glad to hear your mom is feeling better. That is the most important thing, and it gives you another victory to celebrate today. Just remember, your ex will be back sometime. They always find a way. Just remember to hold strong.
Author SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 I was going to the airport and got the call that my mom had been rushed to the ER. Had to cancel my trip. Am very disappointed but obviously that is insignificant compared to this emergency. I'll make it out to California someday. And yes, you have been telling me NC since day 1. It's easier said than done but obviously, I've let it go on for 3 1/2 months. So yeah, I did the right thing. Just sucks.
reddragon588 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. My thoughts are with you and your family, I hope she recovers ASAP!
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