sickpuppy Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Tonight I ran into the girl who'd blew me off for last Saturday. (The one from my previous thread.) I was walking back to work and she came around the corner and we said hi. I kept walking and she called me and said: Oh did you go to that feast? I told her yes. Of course. She told me she "forgot" to call me and let me know as she was sick. (She did sound like she had some lost voice to be honest. But I think she just felt guilty.) She asked me how it was and I told her it was great. (It was. We went berserk there. lol) We made quick small talk and I told her I had to go and left. I didn't want to put her on a guilt trip though won't ask her out again. She sounded like she was sick but she never called nor texted for a week and didn't mention anything the night before and I wasn't going to ask again so she'd coughed and said she was sick. I should've told her if you didn't feel like going you could've said so. But I didn't.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 You did a great job. Well done! I may have sounded pretty pathetic in describing the original incident..and I may joke and kid...but I do not play. I let the "players" play themselves while I pretend I'm clueless. It really works wonders!
charlietheginger Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I do the same think i let the players play themselves.... I had the same thing woman stood me up no call no text. 2days later she calls says she was sick left a message. I text her saying no worries i went out with friends she text me back if i wanted to get together this weekend told her no thanks out with my friends i met a really cool chick and think ill go that route . bye
Author sickpuppy Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 (edited) I do the same think i let the players play themselves.... I had the same thing woman stood me up no call no text. 2days later she calls says she was sick left a message. I text her saying no worries i went out with friends she text me back if i wanted to get together this weekend told her no thanks out with my friends i met a really cool chick and think ill go that route . bye You can bet your azz if you would've told her yes to her plans she would've flaked a second time. The best thing to do is have your own plans for you and invite a girl. If she doesn't go you are going regardless. (You just don't tell her that.) lol. It's almost as if she had a hint of guilt for doing what she did to this "poor guy" is what I kindof felt. "Please. Get real toots!" In my opinion what she was doing was testing me by asking.. Not that she likes me but she was testing to see things. Test 1) See if he buys my lame excuse I "forgot" to call. Please. Would you "forget" to call out of work? If it was high on your list of priorities would you forget? (Not that it's that you aren't really sick but please you could've just called and said you didn't feel good not say nothing.) Test 2) She was trying to see if for some reason my going with my friend and his wife to the feast was dependant on her. (her asking if I went.) Nice try. Test 3) Let me read this guy and see if he seems upset or shows signs of him wishing I was there. (Uh no. You missed out.) I didn't tell her anything about "Oh you should have been there." Or show any signs of caring." Nor asking her out again. Nor running a guilt trip on her. (Which lowers you as some poor guy in womens eyes.) Just telling her about it quickly. With these types you not only let them play themselves you NEVER get mad nor come up with a smart azz reply. You kill them with kindness and "cluelessness". Edited September 19, 2013 by sickpuppy 1
phineas Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 When it comes to women who have blown me off & I run into them when out... http://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/Dave-Chappelle-Pushes-Girl-Out-of-the-Way-In-Club.gif Or I find a fixed point behind them & off to the side & lock onto it. They are a stranger just like all the other random people on the street. I like the sputtering sounds they make when they are completely snubbed.
Dusk1983 Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Do you think *she* is posting stuff about you on the internet? 3
scorpiogirl Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Do you think *she* is posting stuff about you on the internet? In multiple threads ...
Lansing Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Do you think *she* is posting stuff about you on the internet? This! The point is that you are being too reactive.. Even if you think you brushed her off, etc. by the way you posted this it sure seems you care too much. Ideal thing to do in situations like this is to still be friendly. Mesh, don't ask her out again the next time you see her but depending on the girl I wouldn't rule her out completely. There was one girl that I really liked.. She stopped responding to my emails and then responded like 2 months later. I could have brushed her off completely but I decided to respond. She then was in touch again a month later as she was spending time in my area and wanted to hang out. One thing led to another and we ended up dating for over a year. After we broke up, I talked to her a bit s out the initial stages and asked her why she ignored me before and she basically said she didn't see the point because we were in different cities/etc. Anyway, I am not so quick to "next" someone as most people do. Yeah, maybe I won't go out of my way or but in too much effort but usually I will try a second time and often on the second time it works out. 2
Author sickpuppy Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 Do you think *she* is posting stuff about you on the internet? I agree 100%. It doesn't sound too good on my behalf at all. I'm aware of that and it's not a good look on my behalf at all. I did/do care about her as we'd known each other for a little while now. I just thought I'd post about it on here to get it out of my system and see others opinions and I do agree with you more than you know. It's a double edged sword posting here..You ask questions and or post replies but at the same time look like you're talking crap about people when you do mention what happened in the first place.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 This! The point is that you are being too reactive.. Even if you think you brushed her off, etc. by the way you posted this it sure seems you care too much. Ideal thing to do in situations like this is to still be friendly. Mesh, don't ask her out again the next time you see her but depending on the girl I wouldn't rule her out completely. There was one girl that I really liked.. She stopped responding to my emails and then responded like 2 months later. I could have brushed her off completely but I decided to respond. She then was in touch again a month later as she was spending time in my area and wanted to hang out. One thing led to another and we ended up dating for over a year. After we broke up, I talked to her a bit s out the initial stages and asked her why she ignored me before and she basically said she didn't see the point because we were in different cities/etc. Anyway, I am not so quick to "next" someone as most people do. Yeah, maybe I won't go out of my way or but in too much effort but usually I will try a second time and often on the second time it works out. Being more reactive on the net. Not in person. Though it still doesn't look good on my behalf.. I've never been mean or vindictive towards her and won't be in the future. Who knows. Maybe she'll come around later on. maybe not. I can accept the fact she has low interest in me if she ever had interest in me at all. It's just I guess the need for her to feel she has to give weak excuses when she simply could've just said thanks but no thanks.
Lansing Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Being more reactive on the net. Not in person. Though it still doesn't look good on my behalf.. Yeah, you need to get to a point where you don't feel reactive within your self.. I.e. not acting "non reactive" but truly feel that way... Once you get to that point you will be better off. I know it is hard, I am trying to get closer to that myself... Trying not to let how some girls behaves around me effect how I think about myself.
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