smiler1 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Hi, Just looking for some opinions. My boyfriend this past week has become extremely moody and snappy towards me. I will give a couple of scenarios- I HATE country music. In the car, he had it on for about 15 minutes. I turned it over to find another station. Argument ensued as he got mad that when he is driving, the radio should be his choice (It is always his choice - I just would rather listen to silence than country!) I was making his fav dinner. He asked how long til it is ready? I said 40mins, but I can stretch it out longer If need be. An hour later I told him it was ready. Boyfriend got all moody as it was too soon. We have a dog. I was wiping her paws after they were muddy. She kept trying to bite me so I took longer to get to her paws. Boyfriend gets annoyed and takes over as I am 'taking too long' Which brings me to yesterday. I was invited out by friends for dinner at 6pm. I invited him. He is not too fond of my friends, so declines. I say I will only be gone for like 1.5 hours-2 tops (it was just happy hour) Also, I prob do this once a month. before I go, he avoids me and barely says bye. I was trying to convince him to come and offered to bring food back for him. It was like pulling teeth getting him to respond. I get back home at 8.30 (I left at 6pm - traffic was bad) Met with one word answers and clearly moody towards me. I was sat watching tv and started to get upset inside. I had a nice evening with friends and come home to this silence treatment. I kept cool and thought Ok lets see what is up. He tells me it is because his bday is coming up (5days away) we had a planned a bbq with his friends and family. I have a secret trip to mexico planned. He is from a different country where many of his relatives still live so wont be coming. I understand why he would be a little sad. He tells me he is cancelling his birthday and wants to do nothing now. BUT! he is 36. not a milestone bday. And we have been together 8 months. So for me, I am thinking hold on. He has a girlfriend this year who he supposedly cares about. Should be overjoyed at having someone special by his side for his bday. yes it sucks his other family members wont be here- but to cancel the whole day? Am I not important enough to make it special? I have spent weeks trying to get him excited (I love spoiling people and making special days exciting) and to hear that he is so miserable and wants to cancel is just making me mad. Am I over reacting? I think to myself -if I am as important as he claims, why would he not be excited about it? Spending it with someone he really cares about (side note- I have said LOVE. He has not) Sigh. I half think he was just mad I went out for a few hours and is using the cancellation as punishment as he knows I am excited to spoil him.
Balzac Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 WOW. I'd not tolerate such childish behavior.
Keenly Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Your first example of the radio is very contradictory and a lack of communication on your part. The rest though, the rest is pretty awful.
Balzac Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 (side note- I have said LOVE. He has not) Living together - romantic relationship or FWB?(side note- I have said LOVE. He has not)
Author smiler1 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 Your first example of the radio is very contradictory and a lack of communication on your part. The rest though, the rest is pretty awful. I probably didn't help by just turning it over. But he knows how much I dislike it. But it became a huge deal - I even turned it back immediately. I did it without really thinking, just though 'ugh enough' and flipped the station. It turned into a pretty serious argument.
Author smiler1 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 (side note- I have said LOVE. He has not) Living together - romantic relationship or FWB?(side note- I have said LOVE. He has not) Romantic. He 'likes me a lot'
Author smiler1 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 How much do you love yourself? I like to think I do! I'm a people pleaser. I don't like to give up. This week has been intense.
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