MrRightNow Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I know this is stupid and trivial, but I'm kind of annoyed. Anyway, I met this girl in one of my classes and we seemed to get along really well. I have no interest in dating her since I have my eye on someone else, and she's not my type anyway. BUT, she seemed cool and someone I would like to have as a friend. I really need to make some new friends since I recently moved to a new area and I'm bored as hell. A couple of weeks into the semester, she asked about my schedule and offered her number so we could work on stuff together. She was having trouble with one of our assignments. I texted her a couple of days later to see if she wanted to study with me at the library. She said yes, but ended up cancelling. She kept texting me about our class while I was at the library, and her texts had a really warm and friendly tone. I only discussed our class and the assignment with her, no flirting or personal stuff. However, when we had class a few days later she glared at me and walked right by me without even saying hi, and she sat far away from me instead of right next to me like she usually does. She did the same thing today. I know I didn't say or do anything to piss her off so I'm really confused by her behavior. She really seemed like friendly and easygoing person. What I don't understand is, even if she has no interest in being friends, she could at least say hello so there wouldn't be any awkwardness between us. We're going to see other all the time. I really can't stand awkward situations. Should I ignore her when I see her or be somewhat friendly? I feel like it's going to be weird either way.
mea_M Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Is it possible that she is sort of shy? And of course be friendly. I'd wait for her to make the next move at this point. Mea:)
SubliminalSessions Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 Meeting people in classes can be very...erm, un-promising. I was fortunate that I met a couple of hot girls my freshman year pretty much my 1st day in college (what woman doesn't need a gay man friend?) that became good going out buddies for months (we never studied together) ...but after that I didn't really make 'study buddies' with anyone else. People just seemed to have their own lives and stuff...and this was downtown Miami of all places. I'm not really sure what step you should take since I can't see the situation for myself and don't know what she's thinking...but running after her might not be the first option. I think it's weird she offered her number and then playing games like she is...that's why I really can't say much beyond what I said lol
KathyM Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 I'm guessing this girl had an interest in you and would have wanted you to show a romantic interest in her. After texting for awhile, she realized you were not interested, and she got offended about that, and probably wondered why you even bothered to start talking to her. That would be my guess.
HeartDesires Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 her texts had a really warm and friendly tone. I only discussed our class and the assignment with her, no flirting or personal stuff. She's disappointed in you because she wants more...
sakher Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 @OP, this goes 4 ways. Don't jump into conclusions just yet 1) She COULD have been having a difficult day or had something terrible happen to her before (thus her cancelling on you that one day) and she is taking it out on you. If she was distant towards everyone else then it's not just you. If she was friendly and sweet with others but not you...then you must have said or done something to trigger it. 2)Likes others said-perhaps she had some interest in you, you didn't get the hint and mistaken her being "friendly" for flirty and now she feels rejected and embarrassed. 3)Maybe she assumes you're into her and she doesn't feel the same way. Ouch, IK, but hey it could be a possibility. 4) She might have a BF now and feels like she can't continue her friendship with you.... BUT, this is where you need to COMMUNICATE and ask her "hey, you seem down lately. What's up?" or else this is going to be at the back of your mind for a while... 1
Author MrRightNow Posted September 19, 2013 Author Posted September 19, 2013 I'm guessing this girl had an interest in you and would have wanted you to show a romantic interest in her. After texting for awhile, she realized you were not interested, and she got offended about that, and probably wondered why you even bothered to start talking to her. That would be my guess. I didn't really get the impression she was into me like that, but you might be right. I started talking to her because she sat next to me in class and I'm trying to make new friends. I don't understand why some girls assume that any guy who talks to them must be romantically interested in them. I didn't lead her on so she doesn't have a valid reason to be offended. It seems kind of harsh and immature to start treating me like a total stranger all of a sudden.
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