Why do people play games with no intentions of actually going out with you?

[sickpuppy]

Why do people play games if they never had any intentions of going out you in the first place?

 

Is it they may have had in the beginning but if they see you are a good person they lose interest as you aren't a challenge and prefer "real men" as they themselves aren't good people and prefer those wh treat them like crap?

 

Or they are out of a relationship but that person keeps popping up in the picture?

 

Or are they weighing their options and only seeing those they deem the next best thing?

 

Or they simply don't know what they want and have issues?

 

Or did I simply provide the answers to my own question. lol

[TigerCub]

Or they went on a few dates with a person, found some qualities about them they don't like and decided not to waste time on deal breakers?

 

Is that not a possibility?

 

There are so many reasons why someone goes on a few dates with another and realizes that that person is not right for them - so they end it rather than lead them on.

 

I don't think that's so bad. Doesn't mean that the person who is no longer interested is a bad person - at least they are honest in not wanting to waste anyone's time.

 

What happened with you?

What did they do to make you think they were playing games?

[sickpuppy]

Or they went on a few dates with a person, found some qualities about them they don't like and decided not to waste time on deal breakers?

 

Is that not a possibility?

 

There are so many reasons why someone goes on a few dates with another and realizes that that person is not right for them - so they end it rather than lead them on.

 

I don't think that's so bad. Doesn't mean that the person who is no longer interested is a bad person - at least they are honest in not wanting to waste anyone's time.

 

What happened with you?

What did they do to make you think they were playing games?

 

 

I'm talking about people who seem to like you and throw out signals they want to move foward as in getting their number, them telling you to text them, giving out: "Sounds good to me" when you ask them out yet they don't go out with you at all.

 

Is it like they are testing you somehow from the beginning to see if you pass or fail or just stringing you along for whatever reason?

[TigerCub]

Why do people play games if they never had any intentions of going out you in the first place?

 

Is it they may have had in the beginning but if they see you are a good person they lose interest as you aren't a challenge and prefer "real men" as they themselves aren't good people and prefer those wh treat them like crap?

 

Or they are out of a relationship but that person keeps popping up in the picture?

 

Or are they weighing their options and only seeing those they deem the next best thing?

 

Or they simply don't know what they want and have issues?

 

Or did I simply provide the answers to my own question. lol

 

Most as*holes seem like 'good guys' in the beginning - and their level of douchiness isn't discovered till further along (in most cases) - so that can't really be it if you're talking about a case where the girl is blowing off even a first date with a guy.

[TigerCub]

I'm talking about people who seem to like you and throw out signals they want to move foward as in getting their number, them telling you to text them, giving out: "Sounds good to me" when you ask them out yet they don't go out with you at all.

 

Is it like they are testing you somehow from the beginning to see if you pass or fail or just stringing you along for whatever reason?

 

Thanks for explaining.

 

Yeah some people do that and I don't get it.

I think they are just cowards that can't say 'Thanks but I'm not interested'

 

In a few cases, it could depend on the reason they can't go on a date (but only 1 mulligan applies in those scenarios).

 

So many people are flaky or just cowardly.

I don't really know if they do it out of cowardice or if they are just socially awkward as*holes.

 

Don't bother with them.

 

There are nice, straight forward people out there.

[carhill]

Why do people play games with no intentions of actually going out with you?

 

Ego validation, generally an aspect of any 'game playing', is one potential.

 

If such people are strangers, to me asking why indicates too much investment in the outcome. In the scheme of life, they're zero so why waste valuable time caring and analyzing?

[lionoftheforum]

I think your key wording is “seem like they like you”. I think a lot of people are confused by or misinterpret happiness and getting-alongness as a strong signal of wanting to interact with you rather than what it really is, which is keeping times and events happy by any means necessary. There is a difference, and many men can’t tell the difference.

 

Why do women say they want to hang around with you and then inevitably disappear or worse flake? Simply put, they are emotionally feeble. They might have been genuine at the time… but… that was yesterday. Today her cat puked and her friend didn’t call her back. The ladder events will literally drive all of her decision making until she is happy again. This has been researched; females perform worse under stress than males and make poorer choices under stress than males. You did nothing wrong.

 

Females will avoid self-hurt caused by their rejection of you (stress avoidance … “I didn’t want him to feel bad” by proxy this makes ME feel bad). They don’t like dealing with feeling bad. They do this for themselves, not so much as an insult to you. Seriously, they literally tell themselves what they are doing is OK because they think agreeing plays better than saying no. Yea, it works right now, but tomorrow?

 

This essence is an almost universal coping method among females when dealing with situations they would rather not deal with.