tryingtobehappy Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 I went out Christmas shopping with my ex, he called me Sunday and left a voice message saying he was in the neighborhood and wanted to know if I was available to go out with him, so I got a coffee and met up with him. We have been broken up for 5 months after and 8 month relationship and I went out with him 10 days ago for dinner for the fist time since the breakup… ever since the meal he has been e-mailing and calling more. It was mildly fun shopping with him but, it was a bit odd when he was playfully whacking the back of me knee or when we were walking and he hugged me and said I really appreciate spending time with you… he asked me if my parents knew we were hanging out again, which they don’t and he said as long as your ok with it that is what matters. He keeps making jokes about me kicking him ( I am taking kickboxing classes), or when we drove threw this wooded area and he asked if I was going to “kill him” he was of course making a joke but I in NO WAY act mad or angry towards him, we have very light, pleasant conversations…is he wanting more of a reaction from me? He asked if we could go shopping again in 2 weeks. I didn’t really reply yet, he called me later on that night and left a message telling me a funny story and thanking me again for going shopping that he that he really enjoyed the company, especially mine. I am just afraid to let him back in and when one of us meets someone else that other person will be left behind and feel hurt again. ( I really don’t want to hurt him either) I am still not sure I don’t think I want him back, the more time passes the more comfortable I am without him, I am ready to start to date again (he already has but is not is not at the moment) but if he honestly tried his damdest to win me back over he would most likely be successful. I was his rebound or a transitional woman from a 12 year Marriage he had no clue was ending our relationship was great till he had a breakdown of sorts and 2 days later he ended it. Ahhh I don’t know what advice I am looking for I just really need to vent and this site is great for it!!! Thanks for listening and if anyone has some input that might help me I would greatly appreciate it. I hope everyone is happy one day.
tiki Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Yeah, um, he wants you. It's up to you to decide if you want him back. Don't forget, you broke up for a reason. That pain that you had has diminished. Why didn't you guys work out the first time?
Author tryingtobehappy Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 He said that he thinks I have stronger feelings for him then he does for me. He kind of went nut’s 2 day’s before he ended it and all of a sudden it was over. I think it was just too soon for him to get back into a relationship. His heart is not ready to let someone in yet. I still don’t think he is fully ready, and I don’t know if I will be around or be the one when he is.
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