movingonnow1 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I've recently gone through a really horrible breakup (kind of similar to Lauri's). I went through a long distance relationship and she decided to end it with me after I moved back home for her. I cut her off completely and have decided to move on with my life - I find comfort reading all the wonderful input on this board and by trying to help others with their so I try to heal with others. I wanted to ask you all - when would you ever take someone back? I don't know if I would ever take my ex back in the future, she did mess up pretty bad and played some wicked mind games with me. The only way I would even consider talking to her if she was BEGGING me to take her back, apologizing and willing do to anything to make it work. I noticed a lot of people want their ex back without even having them coming back to them apologizing for what they did and showing that they would legitimately do the right things to make it work. I think that sometimes its a mistake for us to rush back into things with people who are confused and don't know what they want. What are some of your experiences? I am asking so I can keep the strength to keep moving forward and hear some of your stories regarding taking back and ex and what are the signs you noticed that made it work / not work.
candie13 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Nope. There are even a few whom I wouldn't have, to begin with, haha! 1
RiceaRoni Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Nope. Why take someone back who hurt you? You'd question their motives the entire time and be worried they'd leave again, always on your toes...it's just unwanted and unneeded stress on yourself. So nope. They had their chance and if they left or cheated or whatever...theyes messed you and made their decision. Second chances aren't always easy or given sometimes you gotta get it right the first time or never give up on a significant other.
LifeIsGreat Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 It will always depend on the circumstances and people involved. I can tell you this...... if you are already emotionally healthy, or get yourself emotionally healthy after the breakup, you will know it your gut whether the person deserves a second change. Additionally, I truly think you need a period of NC to sort your emotions out while seperating them from logic. BUT, for some people they are able to do the LC thing with an ex while sorting out their emotions and there is nothing wrong with that either. No one size fits all in love. In my experience, there are ex's that given the right circumstances I would take back. Others I wouldn't. My recent ex and I did the on/off thing for a year before it finally ended for good a few months ago. One time she broke up with me and I went NC, but she persisted. I was willing to see what she had to say, but already had in mind what I needed to hear to give it another change. She came through, and I did give her that chance. 2
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