liono Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 How do you open up to a girl who only sees you as a goofy kidder. I want to ask her out but I get the feeling she will laugh and not take it seriously. It's difficult because we aren't real close we see each other only at church. I've known her for a long time but it's only been, like I said, a joking vibe. I guess you can call my behavior towards her a heavy dose of goofiness and a tad of serious talk.
wiki Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Ask her out. If she treats that with immaturaty, then i reckon she ain't worth your time.
alphamale Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 This one may be lost cause because 1st impressions are everything. If you ask her out now she will wonder why you waited so long and you will not come of as confident or as a 'take charge' kinda guy. Next time you meet a girl you like it is more than OK to talk to her for 30 minutes and ask her out after the talk. That way if she says NO then you haven't wasted 3 years thinking about asking her out.
Author liono Posted November 23, 2004 Author Posted November 23, 2004 I understand what you are saying. I hope its not to late. I guess I didn't realize I had I had crush on her because of my goofiness. If I know you, I kid around. But I don't think she is fed up with me now. I just have to find the right time and right words.
alphamale Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Originally posted by liono I understand what you are saying. I hope its not to late. I guess I didn't realize I had I had crush on her because of my goofiness. If I know you, I kid around. But I don't think she is fed up with me now. I just have to find the right time and right words. it will be good to ask anyway especially if she has shown some sign of interest, you may be able to start out with: "Well you know (insert her name here), many times I come off as a joker or comedian but I need to get a bit more serious with you for a minute...."
wbb Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale This one may be lost cause because 1st impressions are everything. If you ask her out now she will wonder why you waited so long and you will not come of as confident or as a 'take charge' kinda guy. Next time you meet a girl you like it is more than OK to talk to her for 30 minutes and ask her out after the talk. That way if she says NO then you haven't wasted 3 years thinking about asking her out. Or the next six years. (of course I had excuses ... I moved to a different city, I was working and going to school at the same time, we never managed to meet, she always had guys chasing her...) Biggest regret of my life. Yep, 30 minutes, after that, it only gets harder.
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