Sawce Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Long story short, me and my best friend of ten years recently decided to become sexually involved. She's been showing my pictures off to her friends and even said she feels that no other guy compares to me. Years before we hooked up we were living together, and she often brings up that time saying how she "misses those days." We both decided that we want to see where this goes but want to "take things slow." We spoke nearly every day over the summer but now she's back in school and "she been very busy." She's trying to maintain high honors (made deans list last semester) and has a 7 year old shes raising on her own. She just got out of a very serious 3 year relationship, and she knows about my player ways (friends of 10 years that share every secret). Is it possible she really is this busy? How can I give her a lot of space without losing her interest? I'm not usually one for relationships so I dunno what to do here...but she makes me want to change my ways.
Philosoraptor Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 You're a reformed player, she's just out of a serious relationship, and she has a child. For the reasons above, I'd say take things slow. That middle reason there is the biggie. You were a source of comfort in the past and a friend; and now she's newly single from a serious commitment. You may be a temporary safety valve, the player may get played.
waiting4u Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Just give her space. You never know - sometimes girls don't know what they have when it's right there. I had a close guy friend throughout my last relationship and when it was over I wanted to take up with him and he wouldn't have it. He's still pissed about it and it was the end of our friendship. You should try and save the friendship even if this doesn't work out and it may not. I think single mums are super busy. And if she's going to school at the same time, she probably really is busy.
Author Sawce Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Just thought I would update my situation. Long story short I played my card right....and currently I am still dealing with the same girl and things have gotten a lot better. We speak every day now, and we spend every weekend together. All u ever hear from her is how much she can't wait to see me again. We r still taking things slow because really we want to see how compatible we r for marriage. So I guess anyone that's in my situation where ur dealing with someone and things seem like they aren't going well. Just play ur situation cool and seek good advice from people BEFORE u go crazy and potentially mess things up with the person u r dating. 1
jonny walker Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 just wait for the moment and once you are done then come out of that relation but make sure u dunno hurt that girls as she is just out of a 3yr relationship
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