mindset Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 My ex was married and had a long distance relationship as she was waiting for her husband to come to her country. In the meantime, her husband was a business man and did not care about her which make her really down... One day, we met in a karaoke with friends and she seems to care me because she is a nice girl and I am a nice and weird guy... I help her emotionally and talk with her then she fall in love with me and dump her long distance husband because he acted cruelly to her for everything she did for him. At this point, I might be a rebound... But I am not. She is very arrogant and I am not below her. We loved each other and had a over 2 years of relationship (we had quarrel every time we meet but our love become stronger days after days). Suddenly, I started to lack confidence and lost attraction to her because of my arrogance. She cried and warned me fewer times, but I didn't care... We broke up... And a badguy seduce her and got her while she was chilling with her friends as they present him to her. This guy is my rebound. Their relationship last 4 months. Now, she finally choose to breakup with this guy - has been 2 weeks. Every time she wants to talk or need help, she will think of me 1st. But she will not act because she doesn't want to hurt me. Recently, she goes out with her friend and lots of single man is trying to charm her and she knows it and decline them all. There is a particular guy that loves her so much and want to be her hero... He called her very often. Sometime she will pick up the phone, sometime not as she doesn't want to break another heart. Guess what? This new guy is a reflection of me... Last day, I asked her out after NC... She told me that she is in a thought phase of choosing her man as she planned to get engaged in 9 months even if it is a blind one as she will reach 30th. So she has to choose her man and the father of her future child. Back to me... Now, I see opportunity as she is single back again, but lot of people including that weird guy is trying to date her. I am worried now because if one of them successfully get her, it will be the end... Recently, she goes out a lot of time and there is always someone that want to date her. She is not a one night stand girl - she is a nice and respectful girl and will only have sex will the one she loves. If she is the one that I really want... 1. Should I let her think and decide if she want me back? 2. Or should I put down my arrogance and start calling her to rebuild the attraction that I lose? Any advice?
deni9 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 You should tell her your feelings for you. Just let it out there! Then give her time to think about it and decide! Because if you really are interested in her and want, I believe you deserve a chance, right? So tell her, and what ever decision she makes respect it! I mean she probably wants you too and is waiting for you to make a statement. Go for it. Take a risk. Good luck!
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