GirlWonder Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 I can see both sides to this debate. I have in the past engaged in casual sex, and a couple of years ago decided it wasn't for me. I do, however, respect everyone's right to decide how to live their own (sex) lives and am certainly not judgmental of anyone who has regular one night stands. More to the point, I am not judgmental of WOMEN who enjoy casual sex. We don't all want 2.3 kids, a mortgage and a white picket fence. I am so sick and tired of this double standard with regards to female sexuality. So many times I have seen guys sleep with women then reject them for being too "easy", "cheap", or "slutty". Excuse me, it takes two to tango!! I enjoy going to parties and bars, and often meet guys this way, so I am on the front line of this ridiculous casual sex gender divide. If I go home with them I'm a "whore", if I don't then I'm "frigid". I have also read many posts on this board with guys having second thoughts about their girlfriend after finding out she had a sex life in the past. GET REAL! The Madonna/Whore dichotomy should have been wiped out in the 1950s, yet it still persists today. I find it so frustrating!! Anyone agree/disagree?
quankanne Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 what a kick in the arse to be open-minded, up-front and honest about distinguishing between getting laid and wanting a longer-tern relationship ... only to be labeled a hoochie. I personally thought (and still do think) that it's complete and utter BS for a woman to have to play games when it comes to her sexuality: if she's mature enough to take all precautions into hand, why shouldn't she enjoy casual sex without being castigated for it? It shouldn't be a one-sided pursuit. frankly, I think most men are scared by the thought of sexually liberated females, no matter how "with it" they think are, and will bad-mouthe any woman who doesn't play into the virgin concept.
Karina Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 I totaly agree. Casual sex shouldnt be a big deal. This just come to prove that woman are slowly but surely gettin ready to take over this MuthafuCcka lmfao karina Im fucCked up right now. do mind me
Gala242 Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Originally posted by GirlWonder I am so sick and tired of this double standard with regards to female sexuality. So many times I have seen guys sleep with women then reject them for being too "easy", "cheap", or "slutty". Excuse me, it takes two to tango!! I enjoy going to parties and bars, and often meet guys this way, so I am on the front line of this ridiculous casual sex gender divide. If I go home with them I'm a "whore", if I don't then I'm "frigid". This double standard exists and will always exist....so you might as well conform to it. Men will be men....we are the more aggressive and sexual beings between the two genders, so having alot of partners is the norm, it has existed from way back to the biblical testaments and to be frank it was way worse then. We all have different roles in society, women in general are the more emotional, sensitive, type which directly contrasts to the typical male behavior. Women will always be looked down upon for engaging in casual sex with many partners, no matter which way you look at it.
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