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Personally I think that it is really pathetic that a relationship has to end this way and I will feel very insulted.

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Was your relationship carried on this way?

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As a general rule, I would consider it disrespectful. In the case of an abusive relationship, concerns about one's personal safety may so dictate, however.

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I think that's a very cowardly thing to do :rolleyes:

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Well, yes. I had been having this "got boyfriend like no boyfriend" feeling for quite sometime. We haven't met for ages and he hardly make the effort to call and text me anymore. I had addressed this problem before a few weeks before and he said he still liked me just that he tends to spend more time with his friend.

 

Recently I had been wanting to bring it up again because I hardly noticed any difference. But he did not seem to have the time to meet me and when I called him, he was usually out with his friends and did not even call me after that.

 

So today when he text me to ask me how was my day and that he was going to take a nap. I replied telling him how I feel and as much as I liked to address the issue face to face or at the very least on the phone, he did not seem keen to see or talk to me at all. Clearly I sounded upset. In my mind I was expecting a breakup.

 

Anyway he replied that he was sorry that he made me feel this way and he had not been a good boyfriend and had brought me much unhappiness and he thought it was best that we remained as friends and I deserve someone better. So I replied that it was so pathetic that we had to end it this way and I feel so insulted. Then he replied that he wanted to call me but he had to work.

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Oh well, I am not really upset over the breaking up with him. I believe that there is somewhere out there for everyone of us. So if we are not meant to be then.. next please!

 

I am just mad at how easily it ended. Meantime he did not even say anything about maybe not having feelings for me anymore and stuffs. He just left me hanging there with the occasional text message asking how I am today or something. Somehow I feel like an idiot, not knowing what the hell happened or pretending that everything is ok.

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I'm sorry about what happened. It's a rather shallow way to break up. But would you want to stay in a relationship with someone who apparently didn't make time for you?

 

He was right about one thing--you do deserve someone better.

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I think its chicken shyt.

 

man, back in my day we had letters (snail mail) for real cowards; telephone for appropriate circumstances or moderate cowards, and face-to-face for those with some integrity. In junior high we had a friend do it for us. ;)

 

The ultimate cowards way out is to not say anything at all, just stop contacting or responding, counting on the other person to figure it out eventually. :mad::mad:

 

I would put text messages, email, video or digital tapes, and voice mail in the same category as when I was young -- snail mail coward.

 

I was broken up with once by him leaving a note and some stuff with the security guard in the building I where I worked (big building -- hundreds and hundreds of people) the security guard told me! I went back upstairs and told my boss I needed to leave and flew home driving like a lunatic, where I found a ( :mad::mad: ) video-taped farewell and his wedding ring! (yep, twas my husband) MOO LOUDLY BECAUSE HE WAS A HUGE COW-ARD! :p:p

 

He sold the VCR (back then they cost a mint---I'm talking Beta here!) an bought a bicycle and a gun! He did not tell me where he was going and just said "everything is yours" like it was some huge gift. The bills were mine, the debts, the responsibility...... MOOOOOOO!

 

Boy, did we get into counseling after that! :):bunny:

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*sigh* The more I think about it the angrier I get. Should I give him a piece of my mind about what I think of him? If so, how should I go about doing it?

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Originally posted by winnieloveshunny

Personally I think that it is really pathetic that a relationship has to end this way and I will feel very insulted.

 

 

Well, I would think they would be very young, immature and inexperienced. Last time I checked the majority of text messaging users are between 12 and 18 yrs old.

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My ex ended us the same way. He sent a text late at night at said it's over. No explanation.. nothing. I was very angry, confused and hurt. It will take a while to heal your broken heart. I personally would not speak your mind to him. You are angry. Be the bigger person. Don't stoop to his level. Some mind find justification by treating their ex like Sh*t in the end. He is not worth your anger or time.

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We're both over-aged then! I'm 19 and he's 22..

 

Yeah I agree.. I shall refrain from giving him a good piece of my mind. He is not worth my anger or time.

 

Now I think it is so awkward. His good friend lives below my flat.

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Well I am 26 and my ex is 24 so I don't think age has anything to do with it. I live next door to my ex. It's very strange and hard. Just ignore his friend and hope that he is not over there very often.

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People can be immature no matter what the age is!!!

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One word comes to mind for your ex-boyfriend, the breaker-upper-via-text-message man:

 

Weenie.

Think too much Established Member

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I can think of more words to call the cowards... but it would not be appropriate on LS. Your better off without him winnieloveshunny.

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I think anyone you have dated for more than one month and/or slept with deserves the respect of a face-to-face send off. Only a coward breaks up with someone over the phone, letter, email, instant message or text message.

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Originally posted by winnieloveshunny

Personally I think that it is really pathetic that a relationship has to end this way and I will feel very insulted.

 

I think relationships that have a great deal of text messaging instead of real talking are pathetic anyways. Consider yourself lucky you've been freed from a loser relationship and move on to one where people talk in person.

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My last gf ended things by not speaking to me for a week, not returning my calls, and then finally leaving me a message on my machine saying things were over. A message on my machine?! How cowardly is that? I even called her to ask if we could meet one last time so I could at least talk to her for a bit and she called back and said yes, shed be happy to do that (keep in mind, this was all through messages). She said she had to go out of town and would call when she got back. That was 3 weeks ago :mad: . Methinks Im never hearing back from her. Yup...pretty bad. Oh yeah...someone brought up maturity and age, etc. My ex is in her mid 30s, so age really doesnt make a difference sometimes.

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I think if the dumper has any respect for the dumpee at all he/she would break up with them to their face.

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My ex left me while I was gone at work. Left a letter and helped himself to items that I had bought and paid for. The way he left me is the cowardly way...that same way I would feel about a phone message or a text message. I felt that we could talk about anything but apparently running was the best option for him!

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Breaking up Via Text message... :mad:

 

Aren't these the same people that begin "dating" by slipping that oh so romantic slip of scratch paper to the desk next to thiers with the words "Do you like me yes or no?" and a couple of little boxes for the appropriate checkmark? :laugh:

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Aren't these the same people that begin "dating" by slipping that oh so romantic slip of scratch paper to the desk next to thiers with the words "Do you like me yes or no?" and a couple of little boxes for the appropriate checkmark? :laugh:

 

OMG this is too funny!!!!!!!:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

 

This makes me think back to jr. high!!!! I thought I was the only one that ran into these types of kids back then!!! I use to get mad and I would always make my own little box and put a nice middle finger drawing in it!!! :p

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I would always make my own little box and put a nice middle finger drawing in it!!! :p

 

Crap! Why didn't I think about adding that extra option?!

 

:lmao:

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You are old enough to carry on a REAL relationship. Leave the kid alone and find a REAL man! Let him find a 15 year old that is better suited for his games.

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