lindsay1990 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I ask because I have been ruminating about some exchanges that randomly pop in my head, that I had in those three weeks where I lived with my ex after breaking up and the nightmare that ensued. Anyway.... He told me one night that he felt extremely uncomfortable because (though we had broken up things hadn't completely unravelled this day yet and we were sleeping in the same bed), he confessed, that he would see me there sleeping, cuddling next to him and think -I'm going paraphrase him here- something along the lines of: "I feel like an a*shole because I think 'look at her, she's so pretty and sleeping there so peacefully' and then I JUST FEEL HATE". Basically that. That night I knew "we" was a gone-er. I understand that when we are mad we say things. But mind you this wasn't an "I hate you!!" in the middle of a screaming match, in passionate, angry fight. I was days after fall out and well, like I said, sleeping in bed. I didn't cheat, or lie. He was extremely hurt and claimed I was abusive and monstruous and destructive because I had broken up with him several times in fights and then asked him back, and called him out on various behaviours because we had trust issues. Fighting did get pretty bad at one point with name-calling on both part but mostly after the break up. However, after the initial fall out he was sad and all but had no rage, but as days passed and he started blocking me out and would spend hours a day on the phone with his mom, dad, brother, sister and idk who else, he started to rage and increase in the intensity of the grievances he would air. Like I was his worse enemy. He basically did treat me like I was the enemy at the end. But these details are topic of another thread. What do you guys think of this Hate coming into the place where there was all this "Love" just a week before? Granted, we had our problems and had been fighting, but can this really happen? It was a very traumatizing to hear (among other things that happened).
crederer Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 You did something that hurt him badly. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you, emotions can go all over the place. But he obviously doesn't think it's a relationship worth keeping and probably wants to find someone that doesn't make him feel hatred.
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