RockerChick22 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 (edited) My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for over a year and he asked to plan some time with me again so we agreed to.he's been missing me and decided to drive out to see me.When he showed up though we were walking and I asked him how he was. He responded with "I've been alright". I told him that was good, and he said "not really, and that he can't really tell me how he's been."Then out of nowhere he had me get back in his car and he drove back to where he picked me up at and told me it was a big mistake him coming out to see me.I asked him to explain and he wouldn't, he told me it was his feelings and that it wasn't my fault.My guess is that he expected there to be an immediate connection after that long just because he said there was one the first time. I kept telling him that it would take a bit to get back into things that we hardly talked or anything before we met and it was way over a year since we've been broken up so it obviously was going to feel the way it did until we worked on bringing that bond back out and spent some time together to get back into the flow of things. we rarely talked or anything before we decided to see each other again so obviously it wasn't going to feel like it did when we were together. Basically, he hurt me a lot.He started screaming at me telling me to get the **** out of his car when I asked him to just tell me what's going on because he was going to just leave me in the middle of nowhere and I was in shock.He seemed upset about something though.I know way before we met he was telling me that he misses what we had and felt like it would be a while before it got back to what it was before. So maybe he was angry and felt like it would never be able to get back to what it was before? I don't get it, he just seemed angry about something and he kept telling me it wasn't my fault.All I can really guess is that he expected and immediate connection just like the old times which I knew there wouldn't be without work because breaking up and getting back together is like a new relationship, so he's childish to think there would be after so long but why he seemed so damn upset about something that I don't even know what it was is what I'm confused on. I mean he obviously missed me a lot to make that trip but I he seemed so angry about something and it wasn't angry at me.Maybe it didn't feel like he wanted it to so right away so he got ticked? Help me! Opinions please.It's hard to get over this one, I've been looking forward to this for so long and this happened.It's not even right. We didn't have sex or anything,within 20 minutes he decided it was a big mistake and left so all I can do is guess that he was upset it wasn't like old times like he wanted but I don't know so I need opinions. Edited September 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Philosoraptor Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Well that tells you a lot about any type of future with this guy. Not only is he unwilling to put in the effort to make things work, but he became verbally abusive and noncommunicatal pretty quick. Keep working on yourself and moving on, and in time you'll hopefully find someone willing to put in as much effort as you are.
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