flacss7410 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Short story.. My gf and I were LDR..SHe recently moved to my town so we could be together. since she been here i knew something has been up because she has been a little distant. She told me her mom disapproves of me for whatever reason, and she needs a break to figure things out. I took the mom comment into play, but I still believe there is more to the story..regardless she wants to still be friends..And thats where I said no. I changed my number, deleted fb, every social media to get ahold of me. I told her if she wants me she will have to fight and hung up. This was mid last week. I love her a lot and do anything for her, never treated her bad or cheated. Ireally want this to work out but refuse to be toyed with.. Is No contact a good call here? make her really think about what I am about..I feel if she had contact im just at her fingertips .. all thoughts are appreciated...sorry so long
Author flacss7410 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Im hoping she snaps and realizes what she had...but then again her taking time is giving me time to get over her. I know she has called and realized my phone is disconnected. that had to hit her somehow.
lauri Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Short story.. My gf and I were LDR..SHe recently moved to my town so we could be together. since she been here i knew something has been up because she has been a little distant. She told me her mom disapproves of me for whatever reason, and she needs a break to figure things out. I took the mom comment into play, but I still believe there is more to the story..regardless she wants to still be friends..And thats where I said no. I changed my number, deleted fb, every social media to get ahold of me. I told her if she wants me she will have to fight and hung up. This was mid last week. I love her a lot and do anything for her, never treated her bad or cheated. Ireally want this to work out but refuse to be toyed with.. Is No contact a good call here? make her really think about what I am about..I feel if she had contact im just at her fingertips .. all thoughts are appreciated...sorry so long Hey buddy, I know how you are feeling and did the same thing. Everyone has been telling me to not contact her and just let it be. If she really wants to get back into touch with you she will. I moved back for my girlfriend, she wanted me too and when I came back she broke up with me immediately. Sucks but its life - I figure if she can do that to me the best thing to do is move on and improve myself. If she doesn't come back, you got your answers. 1
Author flacss7410 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 If she realizes what she had then whats the next step? Hoping for a possible reconciliation at some point? If so thats cool though Id really question if NC brings you closer to your goal of working it out if thats the case....? That is my question I want it to work out, Figured"you dont know what you got till its gone" applied. After she reaches out, if in fact she does, I will control more, before everything was on her behalf. I want to be balanced.. IDK if this is answering your question.. I really want to message her Im at that stage but im fighting it.. Ive done almost all the work i beleive, I think its her turn to show her side.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I think NC is the best route in all situations? You want to move on? Then you go NC to remove her influence in your life to do that quicker. You want her back? Then you go NC to both of you reset your emotions and calm down and, in the process, she might miss you. But staying in contact in the immediate aftermath is about the worst thing possible to do.
lauri Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I think NC is the best route in all situations? You want to move on? Then you go NC to remove her influence in your life to do that quicker. You want her back? Then you go NC to both of you reset your emotions and calm down and, in the process, she might miss you. But staying in contact in the immediate aftermath is about the worst thing possible to do. This ^^^. Just start to improve yourself for yourself. Get yourself enough confidence to feel like you can get any girl in the world and loving yourself first and foremost. The most important thing is for you is to just move forward - if she really wants to be with you she will contact you. NC will put things into perspective for yourself too - you will realize if she is worth getting back with after you put yourself out there and meet new people. Either way, you can't lose and will learn valuable lessons through this.
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