Robynhood Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 So I finally asked the guy I've been talking to where our relationship stands. I don't want to rush anything I just want know is it worth pursuing. He responded to me that he's not ready for a relationship with anyone and is still going thru the emotions from the last one. He just wants to get to know me more and not rush things. He says he likes me and wants things to happen naturally. So now I'm sorta sad. I don't know whether or not to continue talking to him. It seems like we will never have a real relationship and he's just leading me on. Should I stay or just run bc I might get hurt. We have has sex but we don't lie near each other 2,000 miles apart!
BluEyeL Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 You should definitely leave. Told you clearly he doesn't want a relationship.
TaraMaiden Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Hope is a four-letter word. Leave, and don't look back. You're a soft place to fall, a re-bound, a cushion against solitude. You deserve better. And nearer. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Not worth it. He was honest and told you he doesn't want a relationship right now. Add that to the distance, and what's in it for you?
Author Robynhood Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I just don't get the sense I'm a rebound he flew out here to hang out with me spent an entire weekend with me and I introduced him to my friends. He wants to move to Cali in the near future. Flew me out to his city for his birthday showed me around his town. Went to a concert together calls me babe tells me he misses me. Never puts down his ex or event talks about her. Introduced me to his closest friends and made plans to meet half way and have a nice getaway before my school finals start and before he goes out of the country for a couple of weeks. Who does all that just for a rebound.
nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I had a rebound that was pretty similar to that, actually. If a man tells you that he's not ready, believe him. Waiting up isn't romantic or selfless, it's silly and you'll wind up getting hurt. If, after you've moved on he comes to his senses and comes back for you, then fine. But right now, the very last thing you should do it wait for him. He's told you straight up not to. 2
BluEyeL Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I just don't get the sense I'm a rebound he flew out here to hang out with me spent an entire weekend with me and I introduced him to my friends. He wants to move to Cali in the near future. Flew me out to his city for his birthday showed me around his town. Went to a concert together calls me babe tells me he misses me. Never puts down his ex or event talks about her. Introduced me to his closest friends and made plans to meet half way and have a nice getaway before my school finals start and before he goes out of the country for a couple of weeks. Who does all that just for a rebound. He told you he doesn't want a relationship. Do not waste your time!!!!! Can't stress this enough. I know you'd like things to be different but the reality is that this is definitely a dead end. If you want to get more hurt down the line, AND waste time that you could use to search for a good match, completely available to you, then continue.
deathandtaxes Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I just don't get the sense I'm a rebound he flew out here to hang out with me spent an entire weekend with me and I introduced him to my friends. He wants to move to Cali in the near future. Flew me out to his city for his birthday showed me around his town. Went to a concert together calls me babe tells me he misses me. Never puts down his ex or event talks about her. Introduced me to his closest friends and made plans to meet half way and have a nice getaway before my school finals start and before he goes out of the country for a couple of weeks. Who does all that just for a rebound. Somebody with a lot of money? He wants you to move to Cali? Why? How long have you been seeing him? He has clearly expressed to you how he feels. Consider yourself lucky. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I just don't get the sense I'm a rebound he flew out here to hang out with me spent an entire weekend with me and I introduced him to my friends. He wants to move to Cali in the near future. Flew me out to his city for his birthday showed me around his town. Went to a concert together calls me babe tells me he misses me. Never puts down his ex or event talks about her. Introduced me to his closest friends and made plans to meet half way and have a nice getaway before my school finals start and before he goes out of the country for a couple of weeks. Who does all that just for a rebound. Given what he's just told you...someone does that when they're trying to replace their ex and make their life comfortable and familiar again. Then they realize it's NOT the same (of course) and they're NOT ready for it yet. Sorry OP, it hurts but be glad he's telling you this now. It will save you a lot more heartache in the long-run.
Author Robynhood Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 He's not rich. He's a recent college graduate that just started his career far from rich and where he wants to be. I guess I just have to leave and see where it goes. This wouldn't be the first time we had an interest in each other. We flirted back in 2011. Nothing happened we just randomly talked to each other. Both got in serious relationships broke up and I guess I'm just more ready than he is. If it's meant to be we will talk again
forgetmenot75 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Yeah basically he's not ready for you. Run.
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