steveT95 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 About 5 months ago I came out of a very intense relationship. I was madly in love with her. But it could also be described as an addiction. Things got sour and the break up was very painful and distressing and lead me into a deep depression. I have battled depression since then and in the past few weeks I have been a lot better. I have friends for the first time in ages and am back to being a healthy weight. Seeing her around normally causes a lot of anxiety for me but most of the time I'm okay. Last night I had a dream. It has happened before but this time it was particularly vivid. We chatted and I was reminded of feelings I had/have for her. I woke up feeling pretty grotty and she has been on my mind all day. This dream seems to have trigger off some feelings for her that maybe I was suppressing. It's been nearly six months. I just want all this to go away. Anyone had a similar experience or got some thoughts on my one?
NoLeafClover Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) About 5 months ago I came out of a very intense relationship. I was madly in love with her. But it could also be described as an addiction. Things got sour and the break up was very painful and distressing and lead me into a deep depression. I have battled depression since then and in the past few weeks I have been a lot better. I have friends for the first time in ages and am back to being a healthy weight. Seeing her around normally causes a lot of anxiety for me but most of the time I'm okay. Last night I had a dream. It has happened before but this time it was particularly vivid. We chatted and I was reminded of feelings I had/have for her. I woke up feeling pretty grotty and she has been on my mind all day. This dream seems to have trigger off some feelings for her that maybe I was suppressing. It's been nearly six months. I just want all this to go away. Anyone had a similar experience or got some thoughts on my one? Same here bro. Sunday I woke up at about 6 am with the beginning of the song 'Collide' from Howie Day playing in my head. This was the song she used to play when we first met 7 years ago. The song was playing in my head in my sleep and I woke up with that empty feeling in my stomach as my eyes started to tear ...and this damn song would still kept playing in my head even after I woke up. Worse feeling ever. That has pushed me back a few days but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger I guess. Give it a few days and brush it off Edited September 17, 2013 by NoLeafClover
Waz Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I had one or two. It's just your mind messing with you. I think that you make very good progress and you shouldn't give so much attention to all these, it's normal. You are already on 6th month NC i assume, congratulations, although there's no time limit for these situations, nc 6 months is a great achievement and you must think that now day by day you can feel yourself being calmer. Think it other way: Whenever you see these dreams, think them as tests, to see if you got over your ex
Author steveT95 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 Worse feeling ever. That has pushed me back a few days but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger I guess. Except polio It's not six months no contact, we had a lot of arguments. I don't know how long it has been but a fair few months now. I thought about the dream some more with a clearer head. In the dream I fell in love with her again, it was that exact same feeling. But now thankfully the memory of the dream is fading and with it so are the feelings.
Replaced Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Yup :/ Yup I've been there too, sure everyone has at some point in our situation. I'm 4 months NC. I was doing pretty good for a few days about 3 weeks ago, and the day before I had my dream about the ex I was feeling really good for the first time since a week before the break. I mean I felt damn good, dancing to some tunes and such (and it was before an exam too lol). Then the dream came, with the same emotions you describe, and I got set back, way back. That kinda ruined weeks of progress. I've been picking myself up slowly from that but frankly, I'm still pulled back a fair distance to how good I felt that day before the dream. Amazing how a dream can impact our lives to such an extent. I think we need to try lucid dreaming, so we can control the dream and have the option to throw a pie or something at their face instead and move past it
Mr Scorpio Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I've had many mornings ruined by a dream involving my ex. There was an instance about a year ago where I dreamed I was going to see her the next night at a concert, and I did. In that case, the dream helped prepare me for the real deal.
stormer1092 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I used to have dreams of my ex for the longest time. It was seriously every day for the first month and it was horrible. It was me standing on top of a rock and trying to pull her up but she never would make it. Which when you interpret, it means I have stability in my life and I'm trying to reach for her. When you reach for something it means you desire or emotional void in your life. When I finally understood this the dreams stopped. But now I had another powerful dream where the number 401 kept popping up. Also if you know anything, numbers are very powerful in dreams and you break them down 4+0+1=5 so you look up the number 5 and 5 means a change in your path or that you need to alter your course. My life has changed in the past few months for the better and I'm leading a new path. Take note of your dreams they can help you understand like they did with me.
Nancy87 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I would have dreams in which i would see him making out with other girls WHY
stormer1092 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I would have dreams in which i would see him making out with other girls WHY Thats rough. But to see others kissing in your dream suggest that you are too involved in someone else's personal lives and relationship. You need to give them some space
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