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Hi,

so this is my first post on a site like this.

I am 38 she is 35

We dated for 2 years. We had a great relationship. We have been broken up for about a year and a half. We have been able to maintain a very close friendship (we do deeply care and love each other). We have dinner together and hang out about once a week.

 

The reasons for our break-up were we wanted different things (we started as just a sort of fling). She wants a marriage, kids.... I've been married before (10 yrs, 2 kids) and really didn't think I ever wanted to go down that road again. I had been divorced for over 3 years when we met.

 

I still know I do not want to have anymore kids.

 

She has a boyfriend now and seems very happy. I have dated a few people but nothing very serious.

 

I have always wanted her to be happy and knowing I did not want to have children with her I let her go when we came to a crossroads and broke up.

 

We have so much fun together and I am honestly happiest when I am with her. I really could see myself marrying her now. I don't know if it is because I am done with my post divorce bachelorhood or what... It took me a while to find myself after my divorce

 

So basically I have been wrestling as to weather I should tell her my feelings. I can handle being rejected if she truly is happy with her BF or thinks it will lead to having a family... She did say at one point that maybe children are not in the cards for her. I just don't want to cause irreparable harm to our friendship. I also don't want to regret not saying something.

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Maybe it's just because I'm a hopeless romantic at heart, but one thing came to mind when I read your story...

 

Love Hath No Fear.

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