Gggforce Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Hello everyone. I think I need some advice although I may be wrong because the problem might be pretty obvious. So here's the story. I was set up on a blind date with a really nice girl. I realized this date was different the second I walked into her door and met her. She had a beautiful welcoming smile and I felt the clicking the second we met. We had a very romantic first date at a local French restaurant. From then on we either spoke or saw one another every day for about two months. We went on dates and even on a mini vacation. She has children so at the time we couldn't be gone to long so we just did an over night trip. So all of a sudden she stopped making contact. It was the week before Labor Day. Going into the long weekend we had not spoken so I called and left a VM. She didn't respond right away but when she finally did she said she was just calling to tell me she wasn't ignoring me but she was very busy at a friends house and would call me later. She didn't call back for a few days. When we finally did speak she basically said that she's really feeling overwhelmed with her job her kids getting in trouble in school and just her busy life at this point. She said she needed to focus on family and work for a couple of weeks and I should call her then "if I wanted to." My response was to go into full no contact mode. It was difficult but I had my mind set. I got back in the gym. I've dropped close to ten pounds since I started back. I was ready to go no contact for a month but then two weeks into it she texted me, on Sunday. I couldn't contain myself. I went against all the advice I've gotten from friends. I responded. The response led to a phone conversation. The conversation led to a possible dinner date for this Thursday. So now this morning I get a text from her saying that she forgot about an event she has on Thursday and that she's busy every other night this week. You're up to speed now on the situation. Really I'm not dumb I look at it like a reasonable person. If I liked a woman I would make time to see her. It's as basic as that I think. It's obvious at this point I'm just getting led on. I can't figure out why this girl won't just tell me to hit the road? Maybe this is one of the reasons she's told me that she's had stalkers in the past. Any advice??? Thanks...
barky2 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I think she's trying to let you down easy...hate to be harsh. Just be glad this didn't happen 5 years into the relationship. Maybe she met someone else or a old flame reappeared Don't contact, and don't respond again. Let this one go and pat yourself on the back. Barky
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