Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I see a lot of posts on here about how to get your ex back. NC works very well. I tried it while dating my ex gf the only time she initiated a break up, and it worked well; too well as it should have ended then! During that time period, 3 weeks apart, i stumbled on some material written by Mike Fiore. "Text your ex back" was one. I read it, listened to the audio, watched the videos. It feel slike a lot of bunk, but, it works. I tried it with her, and bingo, she came back after 3 weeks. Things were good for about 3 weeks then all of the stuff I did not like about our relationship came back, that's another story. So, for those looking for "how to", Google his name, watch some of his videos, there is a program you can buy, etc. Most of it worked for me.
JDPT Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I see a lot of posts on here about how to get your ex back. NC works very well. I tried it while dating my ex gf the only time she initiated a break up, and it worked well That actually made me chuckle. Thanks, I needed that. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 About once every two months, Mike Fiore's name pops up on this site. It's like he has paid spokespeople come on here and promote his "work." lol. Here is step by step on how I felt when I read it: 1. Start reading his site.... 2. (rolls eyes) 3. (confused) 4. (LMAO) 5. (sick) Then I decided to stop wasting my time. The work Mr. Fiore does is panderer plain and simple. Gives you false hope in the attempt you'll throw your money at him. I'd read more convincing stuff on the cover of those fake magazines you see when you are checking out at the store. 1
barky2 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I thought kidnapping and holding them hostage works the best? Damn it. Barky 3
PR08 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I'm 100% for the free-market, and so I really hate myself for even thinking this, but I wish this sort of junk could be banned. I hate to think of the tens of thousands wasted on eBooks and whatever else by the heartbroken over the years. 1
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Why would the OP refer people to his dumb program if it didn't work well for him? LOL.
Author Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) Why would the OP refer people to his dumb program if it didn't work well for him? LOL. I mispke in my original post. I did not try his stuff on her, all I did was full NC, which he talks about, and suggests, which is what I was trying to say. He suggests 30 days if I recall and then a series of text messages. After listening to a couple of his audios and watching a few videos I came to the conclusion, "yeah, this could work, but I am not sure I want her back, and if I do I am not going to play psycho games" so I did nothing, other than NC. She contacted me after 3 weeks of NC to have reconciliation talks. The intent of my post was not promotional, it was more for what I see as folks who are hurting, bad, and want to try "something". Something that makes them feel good or gives them hope, even if it's false hope. The ones who can't go full NC...it was a "try this, maybe it will help you post". I have sent a few of the emails I get from being on some distribution list to a friend of mine who just can't seem to find the one, or, when he does, he comes across as needy and they run. My friend has told me listening and reading has helped him. So, I was simply sharing this for the 1 or 2 folks that may find value in this. Yes, some of his stuff is just common sense. Some folks don't know this though, especially when they are hurting or depressed. Can't we just post something on here without the flame throwers coming out...geesh, leave it be. Edited September 17, 2013 by Babolat
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I mispke in my original post. I did not try his stuff on her, all I did was full NC, which he talks about, and suggests, which is what I was trying to say. He suggests 30 days if I recall and then a series of text messages. After listening to a couple of his audios and watching a few videos I came to the conclusion, "yeah, this could work, but I am not sure I want her back, and if I do I am not going to play psycho games" so I did nothing, other than NC. She contacted me after 3 weeks of NC to have reconciliation talks. The intent of my post was not promotional, it was more for what I see as folks who are hurting, bad, and want to try "something". Something that makes them feel good or gives them hope, even if it's false hope. The ones who can't go full NC...it was a "try this, maybe it will help you post". I have sent a few of the emails I get from being on some distribution list to a friend of mine who just can't seem to find the one, or, when he does, he comes across as needy and they run. My friend has told me listening and reading has helped him. So, I was simply sharing this for the 1 or 2 folks that may find value in this. Yes, some of his stuff is just common sense. Some folks don't know this though, especially when they are hurting or depressed. Can't we just post something on here without the flame throwers coming out...geesh, leave it be. As I've said on here before, NO program works if the other person doesn't want to be with you. One could have millions of dollars, give to charity daily, have a 32 inch ding dong or whatever....if the other person doesnt want to be with you, none of it really matters. Not flaming you OP, you have every right to post what you please .....I just think the dude needs to be stoned for trying to pander on weak individuals. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I agree. It's an exploitation of people in a bad spot. People who will try anything to lessen their pain. Snake Oil. I think LS is 1000% better for healing and recovery!! 1
Nancy87 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 i am desperate to get back with my ex, but i know, the convincing should come from inside, nth i can do to make him want to give it a try.. Anyways thanks for sharing babolat!
reddragon588 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Sometimes the right thing isn't necessarily the easiest thing. Getting back with your ex is the easy thing. Taking inventory of yourself, making lasting changes and improvements to yourself is the hard thing. Focus on doing the hard thing. It will benefit you in the long run. If its meant to be, your ex will come back and you will also have a better relationship as a result of your self-improvement. But going back into the relationship without taking the hard steps of improving yourself is a recipe for disaster. As long as you are focusing all your efforts on ways to get back together, you aren't focusing on improving yourself.
Author Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Sometimes the right thing isn't necessarily the easiest thing. Getting back with your ex is the easy thing. Taking inventory of yourself, making lasting changes and improvements to yourself is the hard thing. Focus on doing the hard thing. It will benefit you in the long run. If its meant to be, your ex will come back and you will also have a better relationship as a result of your self-improvement. But going back into the relationship without taking the hard steps of improving yourself is a recipe for disaster. As long as you are focusing all your efforts on ways to get back together, you aren't focusing on improving yourself. Well said, +1!
Viro12 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 The most important thing is... and he says it in the book (yes I read it ) Even if you get your ex back this way.. and nothing about you changed during the break up. She will remember and dump you again! Who's in for round two ? 2
melell Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 This is fine, but it ruins all of the wonderful things that come from surviving a break up and moving on. imo 2
hotpotato Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 30 days is nice and dandy... However, most of the time dumpers have someone lined up or find someone shortly after breaking up. They are honeymoonin. You will have very little luck breaking them up in the first months. In the minimum most of us will be waiting 3 months. 30 days nc might work for dumpers who left in a huff without much thought. Most dumpers have thought about it for awhile and want to be consistent in their decisions. I think most of us need to ask... Do we really want them back? I sure thought I wanted my current ex back, now I dont care. After awhile you stop idealizing them, and you start to see them for what they are. And most dumpers are cheaters I said it. Most dumpers are cheaters. They were having emotional and/or physical affairs while you two were together. This affair further sucked the vitality out of the relationship they already had, but they blame this downturn on YOU. I promise some of these dumpers cant tell the difference between having a hard time and irreconcilable differences. If you get back together, will they do it again? In all fairness, I know people who have reconciled and are very happy to this day. On the other hand, there is a big trust issue lingering over you relationship like a black cloud. 3
hotpotato Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Sometimes the right thing isn't necessarily the easiest thing. Getting back with your ex is the easy thing. Taking inventory of yourself, making lasting changes and improvements to yourself is the hard thing. Focus on doing the hard thing. It will benefit you in the long run. If its meant to be, your ex will come back and you will also have a better relationship as a result of your self-improvement. But going back into the relationship without taking the hard steps of improving yourself is a recipe for disaster. As long as you are focusing all your efforts on ways to get back together, you aren't focusing on improving yourself. This is a good point. You might improve yourself by having time alone, but is your ex doing the same? Most of the are dating and 'rebounding' around. Are they really improving? 2
Author Babolat Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 30 days is nice and dandy... However, most of the time dumpers have someone lined up or find someone shortly after breaking up. They are honeymoonin. You will have very little luck breaking them up in the first months. In the minimum most of us will be waiting 3 months. 30 days nc might work for dumpers who left in a huff without much thought. Most dumpers have thought about it for awhile and want to be consistent in their decisions. I think most of us need to ask... Do we really want them back? I sure thought I wanted my current ex back, now I dont care. After awhile you stop idealizing them, and you start to see them for what they are. And most dumpers are cheaters I said it. Most dumpers are cheaters. They were having emotional and/or physical affairs while you two were together. This affair further sucked the vitality out of the relationship they already had, but they blame this downturn on YOU. I promise some of these dumpers cant tell the difference between having a hard time and irreconcilable differences. If you get back together, will they do it again? In all fairness, I know people who have reconciled and are very happy to this day. On the other hand, there is a big trust issue lingering over you relationship like a black cloud. It's been 6+ months since I "dumped" my ex gf. I can tell you i did not cheat on her, never have cheated on a woman, never will, emotionally or physically. And in this 6 months I have had opportunities to be with another woman; I have chosen not to. She was "in the mix", which was confusing, during the past 6 months. Though 3+ weeks ago we went NC, and I am feeling much better. So, though I understand your comments, I don't think it's to that extreme. I left because of the severe anxiety I was having and I worked my you know what off to make it work. I changed, adapted, tried to accept, tried to see what was wrong with me, etc.
Viro12 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 30 days is nice and dandy... However, most of the time dumpers have someone lined up or find someone shortly after breaking up. They are honeymoonin. You will have very little luck breaking them up in the first months. In the minimum most of us will be waiting 3 months. 30 days nc might work for dumpers who left in a huff without much thought. Most dumpers have thought about it for awhile and want to be consistent in their decisions. I think most of us need to ask... Do we really want them back? I sure thought I wanted my current ex back, now I dont care. After awhile you stop idealizing them, and you start to see them for what they are. And most dumpers are cheaters I said it. Most dumpers are cheaters. They were having emotional and/or physical affairs while you two were together. This affair further sucked the vitality out of the relationship they already had, but they blame this downturn on YOU. I promise some of these dumpers cant tell the difference between having a hard time and irreconcilable differences. If you get back together, will they do it again? In all fairness, I know people who have reconciled and are very happy to this day. On the other hand, there is a big trust issue lingering over you relationship like a black cloud. From a biological perspective, I think some people just miss the high when the honeymoon is over, and if there's another in sight showing interest, bringing them excitement, then they'll jump right on it and emotionally cheat. When you're high on dopamine, you're high on dopamine. That's why when you see the reasons when they leave you for someone else is illogical to other people. My ex for example brought up occupation problems which I'm sure everyone has to deal with. It wasn't also that I didn't appreciate her passion. However, to her this minor thing turns out to the breaking point of the relationship. Remember, how we define ourselves in life have to do with how we bull**** ourselves Yes, she blamed it on me. 1
hotpotato Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 From a biological perspective, I think some people just miss the high when the honeymoon is over, and if there's another in sight showing interest, bringing them excitement, then they'll jump right on it and emotionally cheat. When you're high on dopamine, you're high on dopamine. That's why when you see the reasons when they leave you for someone else is illogical to other people. My ex for example brought up occupation problems which I'm sure everyone has to deal with. It wasn't also that I didn't appreciate her passion. However, to her this minor thing turns out to the breaking point of the relationship. Remember, how we define ourselves in life have to do with how we bull**** ourselves Yes, she blamed it on me. Oh yes, its often completely illogical. Ive seen people leave the partner for someone very unstable, I mean crackmeth heads, alcoholics, general deadbeats. As long as this person makes them feel good, they dont care. I think what happens a lot is the soon to be dumper has doubts or the relationship is having a rough patch. Along comes the new person who they think they will ride off into the sunset with. Most of the time the dumper already wants out. Having someone there to be a cushion just makes it easier. I say if they want to go let them. There is no changing their minds. This is where dumpees mess up with begging and pleading. You look cuckoo and needy, and the new squeeze looks even more attractive. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 If you wanted to win her back, which you eventually did through texting, what happened then? well, texting can help a bit but you need to exert more effort than that to win your love one back... efforts can be complimented as a form of sincerity especially among girls... I dont even know where to begin with this. You dont WIN love ones back. There ar.... You know what? I dont feel like finishing this. Its late, I'm tired, and this is filled with so many gaps that I dont feel like addressing them all. Tom, I wish you well. 2
ScienceGal Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) An open comment (not specifically directed at the OP) After 6 weeks, he came back. Left again after about a month and tried to come back 6 weeks later. I said no. I took him back a year later and we lasted 6 months. Been about 6 weeks since that break, 5 NC. I hope he does not try to reach out. I'm still sad, my heart is still catching up with my mind. Point is, we aren't compatible. We think, speak, and love in very different ways. We can be deeply attracted to one another, but reason must step in and say "enough is enough". We made each other miserable. It had to stop. NC is for both of people to move on, it's not a manipulative trick to keep someone in your life who shouldn't be there. Look at your situation and ask yourself whether your ex should be in your life. Be honest. Everyone deserves love and belonging, but it's not just going to magically appear when you keep rehashing the same unhealthy relationship. It will happen when you dig deep, do some soul searching, learn from the past, and move on with the notion of whole-hearted love (which includes loving yourself). Edited October 25, 2013 by ScienceGal 1
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 This is a good point. You might improve yourself by having time alone, but is your ex doing the same? Most of the are dating and 'rebounding' around. Are they really improving? I absolutely agree. A lot of people don't seem to think about this.
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