RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I've never liked this term. It's a cop out to me. Obviously if you've had a sort of relationship with someone you can't go back to being friends. At least not at the time of after a BU. It irks me when a guy says "we can be friends" or "would you rather lose me all together, or still be able to have me as a friend?" that's never going to happen and he/she knows it. They say "let's be friends", but they themselves want nothing to do with you anymore. So why even bother saying it? to ease guilt off of themselves? to make them seem less of a "bad guy"?
hotpotato Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 They are still used to your company. They may want to lose you gradually instead of overnight. They think you are a doormat who will still fulfill their emotional and even physical needs. They want the ego stroke. Their new relationship is shakey or they want you around until they find someone else. 1
dichotomy Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 It was a LONG time ago, but a girl I was crazy about, did this after it was clear I wanted an exclusive relationship with her. She dumped me as she wanted to play the field. So she sent me a "let’s be friends" letter. Apparently she was friends with all her ex-boyfriends. I sent back a letter that said "Sorry, but no, I have plenty of friends, I was looking for something more, and don't believe in staying friends with ex's, best wishes to you" Her roommate (who was crazy about me and later we become a couple) said she was absolutely shocked I did not want to be just friends. Later after playing the field, she tried to get me back as a boyfriend. Karma is good sometimes. 2
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