RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 He texted me and like a fool I texted back. We had a small conversation and non of it even consisted along the lines of an apology or attempt at reconciling. Is it too late to go NC? Im tired of feeling like this. Ive blocked him on my blog and I hardly go on fb now. Now I just need to stop texting him. I made the mistake of texting him back.
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 It's never too late for NC. :-) thanks. I just dont like getting a text or texts from him because I really dont want to talk to him...
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 He texted me and like a fool I texted back. We had a small conversation and non of it even consisted along the lines of an apology or attempt at reconciling. Is it too late to go NC? Im tired of feeling like this. Ive blocked him on my blog and I hardly go on fb now. Now I just need to stop texting him. I made the mistake of texting him back. Rice, its NEVER too late. We've been on this board for about the same amount of time. You know the drill! Stay strong! You've done it before! 1
Minneloa Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 thanks. I just dont like getting a text or texts from him because I really dont want to talk to him... RR, you are in control of this. You don't have to talk to him, and you can block his number. M. 1
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 RR, you are in control of this. You don't have to talk to him, and you can block his number. M. I couldn't block his number so instead I made it so if and when I do receive a text from him, his name has been edited to "DO NOT REPLY" with a picture of a skull. Just so I know better. I also found out how to unfollow him on my blog and so now he knows I have unfollowed him, but I feel better knowing I don't have to see anything he posts. However If he still chooses to follow me, he'll be able to see my posts :/ I don't really care, I just don't want to see his.
OverThinker72 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 NC is hard and we can't predict how we'll react if and when we recieve a text or call from the ex. Yes, in our mind we are strong but we're only human. I broke NC by taking his call and letting him go on for 3 hours. I'm back to NC, sent off for a new number as I can't block numbers on my phone. You've done nothing wrong and the good thing is...you can go NC again 1
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Got a text from him just now about him telling me about Drake's new album.. Ugh the name "DO NOT TEXT " appeared and I knew it was him...really trying to hold off on answering, yet I feel bad if I don't, but I know I'll regret it later if I do reply..x/ the urge..I can't. I broke down yesterday and I feel good today and I felt cheery, and now he texts me..
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I don't want him to take it the wrong way if I ignore him, but at the same time I just want to be left alone. I don't want to be bothered by him...we can't really be friends right now and I don't even know if ever. He's can be very selfish and emotionally manipulating. I juSt don't want to deal with him. But I hate being rude and not replying to someone..
Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I don't want him to take it the wrong way if I ignore him, but at the same time I just want to be left alone. I don't want to be bothered by him...we can't really be friends right now and I don't even know if ever. He's can be very selfish and emotionally manipulating. I juSt don't want to deal with him. But I hate being rude and not replying to someone.. This is exactly how I felt when my ex gf would text me (remember, I was the dumper). I was worried how my not replying, even just an "OK" would be perceived by her. You need to get over that. 1
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 So you didn't reply to her? it's just, I'm in the opposite position. I'm the Dumpee and he's the Dumper. I don't know why he texts me..he broke it off, I'd at least hope he would have understood how much that hurt me and respect that I need to be alone and not bothered by the person who just rejected me for the final time after a numerous amount of times. I'm trying to heal and feel better and it doesn't help when the person who hurt you wants to have a simple conbersation about my day. If its an apology or a compromise or reconcilliation i dont kind talking because it actually has a PURPOSE, but idel chit chat doesnt help me move on.
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Oh no, what do I do now???? He just sent a text "or you can not just talk to me at all" :/ what do I even say? This is stressing me out.
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 He's getting hurt from me not texting him??? Are these what breadcrumbs are? Is he just trying to make me feel bad for ignoring him?
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 And now he's just like "I guess were not even friends anymore" does he not realize he's hurt me? He doesn't understand that it hurts...he only cares for himself.
Ireallydontknow Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Option 1 - Keep texting him and rip the sutures out everytime. You'll never heal, look how worked up you are over this. Option 2 - Ignore him. Who cares if he is upset over this? Who broke up with who here? Do you like being used? It sounds like it. Seriously. Who cares about Drakes new album, it probably sucks, he isn't even that good of a rapper lol. You want to talk to someone talk to us. Ignore him! 2
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Option 1 - Keep texting him and rip the sutures out everytime. You'll never heal, look how worked up you are over this. Option 2 - Ignore him. Who cares if he is upset over this? Who broke up with who here? Do you like being used? It sounds like it. Seriously. Who cares about Drakes new album, it probably sucks, he isn't even that good of a rapper lol. You want to talk to someone talk to us. Ignore him! He says he feels alone. Which doesn't make sense to me considering all the female friends he has and his regular friends. No I don't like being used...I'm just so overwhelmed right now. It's like he doesn't even realize..
Ireallydontknow Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 He says he feels alone. Which doesn't make sense to me considering all the female friends he has and his regular friends. No I don't like being used...I'm just so overwhelmed right now. It's like he doesn't even realize.. I really hope you haven't respond to him yet...Really, ignore him. WHO CARES IF HE FEELS ALONE! You owe him nothing. Are you just holding out hope? Seriously don't be a doormat. If he feels alone, then maybe he shouldn't break up with people.
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I really hope you haven't respond to him yet...Really, ignore him. WHO CARES IF HE FEELS ALONE! You owe him nothing. Are you just holding out hope? Seriously don't be a doormat. If he feels alone, then maybe he shouldn't break up with people. It's stressing and confusing enough to get a text from him after he breaks up with me and acts like we can be friends so easily. But it's even more stressful when he tries to make me feel bad for not responding. I feel so stressed right now because I want to text him but I know it isn't good...it's like why does he feel the need to text me...I know he wants to be friends, but we just ended almost a week ago..and he's been contacting me since then..
Ireallydontknow Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 It's stressing and confusing enough to get a text from him after he breaks up with me and acts like we can be friends so easily. But it's even more stressful when he tries to make me feel bad for not responding. I feel so stressed right now because I want to text him but I know it isn't good...it's like why does he feel the need to text me...I know he wants to be friends, but we just ended almost a week ago..and he's been contacting me since then.. SELFISHNESS. He want's to use you to get over you, while he finds someone else. He is keeping you around in case someone else doesn't come along, work out. TRUST ME! This garbage happened to me too a year ago. You want to go back to him after a week? When NOTHING has changed. You work on YOU! Turn your phone off, screw him. Seriously. You shouldn't feel bad. If you do, turn the phone off. You don't really need it on right now do you? So work out or something to get your mind off this nonsense. 1
cavalier99 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 this is an easy one! just tell him to f*ck off and never communicate with you again! them dont ever answer him. simple. once you are super rude there is no going back!!!! I am a genius. best solution. worked for me at least. youll feel great!!! nothing like burning all bridges..very liberating. rock on! cav 1
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) he kept texting me. and I was getting upset, so I just asked him "what?" and he just wanted to tell me that a song reminded him of me.. ugh I was just like "oh how? okay, I'll check it out" and he said "just listen to it, it's pretty straight forward" I just shut off my phone. I just dont want to turn it back on and find another text from him. I want to be left alone. I can't be his friend. At least not now. I'm sorry guys...I gave in...I feel ashamed. Edited September 17, 2013 by RiceaRoni
Simon Phoenix Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 he kept texting me. and I was getting upset, so I just asked him "what?" and he just wanted to tell me that a song reminded him of me.. ugh I was just like "oh how? okay, I'll check it out" and he said "just listen to it, it's pretty straight forward" I just shut off my phone. I just dont want to turn it back on and find another text from him. I want to be left alone. I can't be his friend. At least not now. I'm sorry guys...I gave in...I feel ashamed. Tell him to stop texting you, because obviously you don't have the self-control to just ignore him. Either that or block his number.
Author RiceaRoni Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 Tell him to stop texting you, because obviously you don't have the self-control to just ignore him. Either that or block his number. That'll be what I do next... I dont want to be mean to him or act like I dont care about him, but I'm trying to consider my feelings right now, and right now I just want to be left alone. It isn't helping..If he texts me again, I'll just tell him this: "(his name), you broke up with me, and these past couple of days I've been trying to heal and take some time to let things sink in, if you care for me like you said you do, please consider my feelings right now...I just need some time to myself, it's nothing against you, I just need to be alone right now and I hope you understand"
lindsay1990 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 There is no balance him anymore. You should not comfort him. I was the one to comfort my ex, even to the point where I TURNED DOWN reconciliation offers the first weeks because he was an emotional wreck and I sincerely didn't feel he was in the right frame of mind to decide. Was his first break up and he flew. off. the. rails. At this point, you making him feel better, will only result in you feeling worse. The healing process is ON and everyone man and woman for himself, dear. Be strong. And put yourself first. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 That'll be what I do next... I dont want to be mean to him or act like I dont care about him, but I'm trying to consider my feelings right now, and right now I just want to be left alone. It isn't helping..If he texts me again, I'll just tell him this: "(his name), you broke up with me, and these past couple of days I've been trying to heal and take some time to let things sink in, if you care for me like you said you do, please consider my feelings right now...I just need some time to myself, it's nothing against you, I just need to be alone right now and I hope you understand" He doesn't care if you care about him. If he did, he'd still be with you.
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