Nancy87 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 for how many of us did no contact work in getting back their ex? They say if a person truly loves you, they find a way no matter what.. how far is this true?
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) Didn't work for me, but I wasn't trying to use no contact for that purpose, and if you do you'll be sadly disappointed. And yes, its true that if they're THAT madly in love with you, they'll find a way to contact you, BUT I'm sorry to say that's more "fairytale" or "rare", if you prefer. Remember, THEY are the ones who dumped US. thats not something one does when they're that crazy in love with someone. Take my advice, and the responses that will follow mine, and stay NC for YOURSELF. Its exactly what I did when my ex dumped me more than a year ago. I still think of her, more frequently than I'd like, and I haven't contacted her in nearly a year. Should I think she's going to come back? You do the math. Ain't gonna happen. She's long gone, and I'm not a daily, weekly or monthly thought in her mind. Meanwhile, I use no contact, and will continue to do so in order not to be heartbroken all over again. Edited September 17, 2013 by BrokenHeartedSavior 3
RiceaRoni Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Using NC is all for yourself. It helps you move on, and it gives you a bit of piece of mind when you lets say you replied to a message they sent, and now you wait and wait and worry when and if they'll ever text back. It's just all for yourself. someone hurt you in a way that was very close to your emotions, and now you need to take up that time for yourself to heal and move on from that person. If someone has the nerve to get up and walk away from someone they "love" then it's obvious you deserve better, of course they realize it was a mistake and make an attempt to return, and even then their actions will be questionable if you were to get back together, you would become more cautious of their motives and their actions, on your toes, wondering if they'd leave again. You don't need stress or that kind of worrying. It's best to go NC and make the change to moving on, learning from this relationship, and finding someone worthy enough. 3
Author Nancy87 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I was the one to break it off coz he said sth inappropriate.. he was hurt n he couldn't concentrate on anything.. i took care of him n told him i wont leave. ill be here dont worry.. N then his family comes in somehow, pressurizes him into leaving me, *convincing* him that we are not a good match. And he told me God did not want us to be together We had a perfect chemistry in EVERY WAY.. how we confessed to each other that we were the best thing to ever happen, considered ourselves so lucky to have found each other.. N now its all gone..... n nth i can do to retrieve it..
HoneyBunny2003 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 And he told me God did not want us to be together. Nancy87: I sure hope you feel better soon. My ex said the same thing and to tell you the truth I think it makes you feel even worse. I know it's hard but just try to ignore anything he said to you during the breakup. Most of the time it's not their true feelings, just excuses to get over. Most of all remember that what he said or feels really doesn't matter right now. Focus on YOU and the healing will come. Hang in there.
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