napy666 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Is is true what they say that everyone has someone for them? I know I am only 26 and I am still young and got a lot way to go but I keep thinking in my mind that what if I never find my special someone and I end up being alone for the rest of my life? I've been single for 2 years now and I just feel so alone and hate being single. But I think that's the case for a lot of single people maybe or maybe not. For me it just sucks that the same thing keeps on happening I will either find a great guy meeting everything I want we chat for a while then they stop talking OR they end up wanting kids OR they don't drive OR they live out of state OR they live in the same state but far away and aren't willing to meet or do anything. I know everyone tells me to wait but then a lot of people say to go for it and find that special someone. I am just so confused right now.
MrCastle Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Live your life for you. Do what makes you happy. Be content with being alone. You can't expect a relationship to magically change your life. Relationships come with their own sets of problems that you have to deal with. In the meantime, enjoy your singledom. Do what you want to do. Relish the fact that you don't have anyone to answer to and can be your own person without compromises. 5
skydiveaddict Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) Is is true what they say that everyone has someone for them? Yes I believe that. I also believe that once "the one" leaves you, you are on your own; for the rest of your life. Kinda like this Edited September 17, 2013 by skydiveaddict
tinydancer93 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I know how you feel. It sucks. You just have to have faith that everything will turn out in the end, and that there is someone out there for you, and one day, you will find each other.
soccerrprp Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Is is true what they say that everyone has someone for them? I personally do not believe that there is someone for EVERYONE. For a number of reasons that we often do not have control over, I simply do not believe this. I've been single for 2 years now and I just feel so alone and hate being single. I know everyone tells me to wait but then a lot of people say to go for it and find that special someone. I am just so confused right now. But, you clearly do not fit in the category of people who may never find someone, I think. You've dated, it just hasn't worked out. Keep at it. I think what people are saying is to be patient. You clearly want a relationship, so you shouldn't wait to date, keep looking, be patient and careful. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Nope, I don't believe that there is someone for everyone. I suggest casual sex and a pet. 3
KatZee Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 There is no "one." On this planet of billions can your rational mind honestly and truly believe there is only ONE person on this planet for you? If that was the case then everyone would be single. What do you think those odds would be in finding that one needle in the haystack? There are tons of "ones" for everyone. You just need to be open and receptive to having it appear in your life. There is a reason for relationships and dating. It's to grow and evolve as a human being. I think people just need to get rid of that romantic notion of "the one" and all the horse crap that goes along with it. 4
gaius Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Is is true what they say that everyone has someone for them? I know I am only 26 and I am still young and got a lot way to go but I keep thinking in my mind that what if I never find my special someone and I end up being alone for the rest of my life? If you're expecting someone born and bred for you I'm sure you'll be disappointed. I haven't yet met anyone who's even close to thinking like me. Who I could just chat with effortlessly for endless hours. The most successful relationships I've had with women involved sharing maybe 15-20% of what goes on in my head. And not bringing up the rest. Compromising on what we did, where we went. For dinner and entertainment. Maybe involving myself in some activities that I usually wouldn't have just so we could have something more to talk about. But you know what, it's all worth it at the end of the day. It's nice to have a partner. Someone who will try to meet your needs since you're meeting hers. You might not ever find that "special" someone but just maybe you'll find the person who's right for you.
Da Lonely 1 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Um, I'm 27 and I don't have a girlfriend yet. You are just feeling lonely and desperate, so you will forget that hundreds of people are enduring the same issues, which are treatable with the right aid. I only had one real bum note of a girlfriend who never loved me and just used me for my money. We weren't in touch for years and it was killing me how I was unable to locate her. I did locate her in the end and all she did was prove her critics right by being abusive. I last saw her in March. But she was horrid, so it's time to draw a line under that and move on. OK. What you need to do is get out and about, rather than being online all the time complaining about the issues that you should be trying to rectify. Trust me, I used to feel the same way you do now, hen: I felt that I was a loser, that nobody liked me and that I'd never be lucky with love. Everybody has their own qualities, even if they aren't revealed yet. You compare yourself to others around you because you lack dignity. Don't hide the talent you have away forever. If you're good at say, art, then I would recommend you join an art school (that is merely an example - it can be about absolutely anything you love). That way, you can build-up friendships (maybe gain more) with men who are also into art. However, the first step is dealing with the negative feelings. I can assure you that lots of people of both sexes meet their partners a huge percentage of the time through their personal interests.
Disillusioned Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Someone else out there has probably already married the one who was right for me.
Da Lonely 1 Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Well, I do admit that situation is a stinger. Realizing the love of your life is with someone else. That's downright rotten. It's like that Laura cow I was obsessed with. She only come to me for my cash, but screwed me over and then was humping that other man in her life when I was trying to convince her I was Mr. Right. That's a money grabber if you ever saw one.
HokeyReligions Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I always believed there was one special person. I also felt sad and alone when I couldn't seem to find him. I didn't sleep around and sometimes I wondered if I was losing the one - unrecognized - because I didn't have sex but then I realized that MY one wouldn't leave hecause of that. I also realized that it was entirely possible I would spend my life alone. I wasn't happy about it but there are no guarantees in life. Then I met him. I knew on our first date but we dated for a couple of years before we married. My best friend who had the same hopes and dreams never married. She had some long-term relationships but stayed single. Shes happy and content.
nomadic_butterfly Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Is is true what they say that everyone has someone for them? I know I am only 26 and I am still young and got a lot way to go but I keep thinking in my mind that what if I never find my special someone and I end up being alone for the rest of my life? I've been single for 2 years now and I just feel so alone and hate being single. But I think that's the case for a lot of single people maybe or maybe not. For me it just sucks that the same thing keeps on happening I will either find a great guy meeting everything I want we chat for a while then they stop talking OR they end up wanting kids OR they don't drive OR they live out of state OR they live in the same state but far away and aren't willing to meet or do anything. I know everyone tells me to wait but then a lot of people say to go for it and find that special someone. I am just so confused right now. I am the same age as you and I have been single for over 5 yrs!! I take any commitment very seriously and wasn't willing to compromise the core of who I am just to say "I have a boyfriend." My singleness afforded me the ability to live/work/travel abroad extensively, move on a whim as I see fit and get to know myself better. I know we have a clock but science and technology is enabling us to live longer and have healthier kids at a later age. Both my nans had kids well into their 40s; one has 10 the other 7 and all of them came out fine. You have to be careful not to rush or contrive these things too much or else you will make a wrong decision in mate just to have a mate. I know plenty of folk who can't stand to be alone so they jump from relationship to relationship without a breather and that's not healthy. While I don't think he will fall from the sky, you should just make yourself available in mind, emotion and spirit so when you do cross paths you will identify him and be ready :-). This is what I've done and I'm super optimistic! I'd rather be in my 30s and have found the right kind of person to spend the next 50-60 years with than be 26 and divorced by 36.
nomadic_butterfly Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 LOL. Glad to know you're an eternal optimist Someone else out there has probably already married the one who was right for me.
pointfive Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Maybe it's time to re-evaluate what you're looking for in a person. Perhaps your standards are too high and you're overlooking some people who may in fact be compatible with you if you just took some time to get to know them a bit more. I am not so sure I believe in the concept of "the one", as others have stated. There are a lot of people on this planet, and surely you'll come across many people who you'll feel some sort of connection with. The connections and closeness with each person will vary but it will help you gain some experience and figure out what it is you really want in a partner. Same thing could be said for best friends... growing up I always thought I'd have one best friend. She was the person who was my childhood best friend, knew how I was feeling, was there for a lot of my first time experiences, etc. and just knew me really well... however by the time high school and university came, we sort of drifted apart... still kept in contact, but obviously we were changing as people. It's not to say I don't like her anymore, but I did find some people who were able to relate to me on a different and personal level despite not growing up with me. The point is that wherever you are in life, there will be someone else out there who is experiencing a similar stage that you are. The key is finding that person and if it works out, you'll find yourself in a committed relationship. Otherwise, things are constantly changing... and maybe keep your mind a little more open
madjac74 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 As soon as you realize you don't need "the one" to make you happy, women will sense your confidence and flock to you. And then remember that you don't need any of them to make you happy but to accentuate your happiness 1
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