Mws Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 At first when I got dumped after a 5 year relationship with some one who I thought was the love of my life, it was so painful. It took 2 months to get hope back for love again. She replaced me wit someone a week after and they are still together 5 months later. Now after realizing she is in a serious relationship with the guy she left me for and I'm struggling to connect with anyone at all I feel like I'm ugly or something I tell myself I'm not but I don't think I'm the type of guy girls swoon over or even want to be around. It's taking a lot out of me, most days I'm strong but the realization that she jumped ship so fast and found something that quick that is real. It's killing me, why can't I find that after 5 months? I feel hopeless and repulsive
melell Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Don't let her actions define how you view yourself. I promise you are a much better person for going through this. And much stronger, even though it might not feel like it right now. Her life may be good, they may be for keeps, but you have gone through a much different experience than what she has gone through. It matters none if you find love now, or later, what matters is that you have grown, you have experienced, and you will be happier next time around. Her making the choice to be with someone else is because of her perspective, it is not the same perspective as everyone else! Don't let someone else dictate your self worth. 1
MontyCarlo Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Your quite simply not ready, women have some kind of uber senses that detect if a guy doesn't like himself. You don't like yourself do you? You won't find love if you look for it. When you stop looking, it will find you.
send_me_flowers Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 i am sorry you have had this happen to you. i know the pain is to great to be replaced. its worse than breaking it off, i am currently going through this now you have to let time heal you. start fixing you first and dont be to quick to get back out on the dating scence, 5 years is a long time to be in a relationship its been 5 months the break up. it wouldnt be fair on you or the new person you would be dating. has i am sure you still have feling towards your ex. has MONTY CARLO said you need to start liking you again and its true let love find you. lossing someone is like a death only that person is alive and chosed not to be with you. i have only starting to feel this way since this morning with the help of some lovely people of this site. WHO CARES whats going on in her LIFE, you look after YOUR life and YOUR FUTURE:bunny: no-one knows if they will be for keeps we are not mind readers we can only speculate and that only feeds your tears more take it as it is and thats shes gone and is never going to be a part of your life. so therefore you have to make your life anew and alone now it wont be easy but god never promised anything would be easy in this life only that it would be WORTH IT!! do you things you can try and enjoy and go out meet new people stay on this forum. if you read my post what i have wrote the last couple of days you wont believe its the same person responded to your thread, we will have good and bad days but each day is becoming a better you!! good luck
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