mtber75 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I met a cute lady at a social two weeks ago. We talked and she definitely showed interest. I messaged her asking if she wanted to go for a causal hike? She answered saying thanks for asking, that sounds fun I'll let you know in a few weeks when my schedule opens up. I responded sure let me know whenever your free! Does she actually mean check back with her in a few weeks when her schedule opens up or she is politely blowing me off? I'm afraid that she might lose interest if I wait too long to contact her again. Should I send her a quick follow up message this week? Feedbacks are greatly appreciated!
carhill Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Does she actually mean check back with her in a few weeks when her schedule opens up or she is politely blowing me off? Polite 'blow off' would be my opinion. Next time, call the lady and ask her out. More personal and much easier to discern tone. Good luck. 2
tinydancer93 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 She could be just blowing you off, but she may genuinely be busy. I'd give her a follow-up text and see how she responds.
UKRN Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Actually, I think the opposite? I'm a busy lady and when friends ask when I'm free I constantly say "Yeah definitely- I'll let you know soon" but forget. It's absolutely fine to message here and just say like, "Weather's looking great for hike this Saturday up.... views should be awesome! Be great if you could make it". If No, on the third attempt (2/3 weeks later) ask her more directly "Drinks?" (so she gets the hint that your interested in her, and not as friends). If no- that's final. You're not being pushy at all by asking- What have you got to lose?! If anything, it's flattering that someone would take the time to remind you of something she forgot to get back to you on. Good Luck =)
CryForNoOne Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 She could be just blowing you off, but she may genuinely be busy. I'd give her a follow-up text and see how she responds. No way. Nobody is that busy. It's a blow off. I'm busier than 95% of the people I meet and I'll find the time to go on a casual first date if I'm interested in someone. If she has time in the next 3 weeks to read a book, watch one TV show, or exercise at all, she has time for the hike. Substitute a workout at the gym with the hike. I think it's a blow off and at best lukewarm interest...
Author mtber75 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I give this a 50/50 chance. I know that as a business owner I am REALLY busy with my time so I can understand. I ruined many dating opportunities just because I didn't have the time to see that person often. I notice that she also have a business to run so I can imagine that her time is pressed. I'll definitely follow up with her within this week or next.
Author mtber75 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 No way. Nobody is that busy. It's a blow off. I'm busier than 95% of the people I meet and I'll find the time to go on a casual first date if I'm interested in someone. If she has time in the next 3 weeks to read a book, watch one TV show, or exercise at all, she has time for the hike. Substitute a workout at the gym with the hike. I think it's a blow off and at best lukewarm interest... I was thinking the exact same thing man! But I know from years of frustrating experiences that women are complicated:)
CarrieT Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I messaged her asking if she wanted to go for a causal hike? Next time, don't message or text! You will get a more direct response with a voice and actual conversation... Plus you will learn more about interest and intention by voice inflections than texting.
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