lildoll Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 hi everyone! not sure i'm in the right forum but here goes I have a patient at work that has a cute son, I met him briefly once and she was talking to me about him the other day & said when he gets back from school we (me & him) should go out for coffee, now idk if I should wait 2 months until he comes to the office and talk to him in person OR should I add him on facebook since I know his name & have no patience to wait? i'm not sure if he would be creeped out or not
deathandtaxes Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Just be honest! You can send him a friend request and then message him and say you ran into his mother and she suggested you two meet up sometime. Then the ball is squarely in his court.
Author lildoll Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Just be honest! You can send him a friend request and then message him and say you ran into his mother and she suggested you two meet up sometime. Then the ball is squarely in his court. I was thinking that, but then if he thinks it's weird I don't want things to be awkward when his mom comes in
RogerWallace111 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 If I'm understanding correctly and he's not back from school & available to meet for two months anyway, I'd tend to say you may as well wait... But I don't know. Contacting him now would be to kind of get things in motion, start some dialogue & confirm that he's into getting together? And give you a chance to feel it out with some web and/or phone convo? You can always lay more blame on the mom by emphasizing her encouragement if you don't want to come across as overly forward or interested. 1
Candace325 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I would add him and send him a message. If he doesn't accept the friend request, just let it go. If his mom says anything about you two getting together, let her know you reached out to him and he didn't respond. If she brings up you requesting him, you can spin it back on her. She suggested you get together with him so you were just following her suggestion. 1
Author lildoll Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 How old are you guys? he's 23 I'm gonna be 27 :/
MrCastle Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 he's 23 I'm gonna be 27 :/ And you're this giddy? Settle down! 1
StanMusial Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 My sister's friend stalked me on FB. It was weird and I didn't particularly care for it. She also blew up my phone one day with text messages. I didn't know this girl at all and never met her before, she saw me in some family photos on my sis' page. Don't do it, just wait until he comes around or his mom comes around then mention it.
Author lildoll Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 And you're this giddy? Settle down! lol yes I would wait. You come off too eager. well I am eager haha My sister's friend stalked me on FB. It was weird and I didn't particularly care for it. She also blew up my phone one day with text messages. I didn't know this girl at all and never met her before, she saw me in some family photos on my sis' page. Don't do it, just wait until he comes around or his mom comes around then mention it. I can see being creeped out if you're not attracted to her plus it's your sisters friend which is weird
Zahara Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) well I am eager haha It would behove you to keep that under wraps versus showing him how eager you are to get his attention. Even if all of us came on here and said it wasn't stalkerish, what if HE thinks searching for him on FB and wanting to be his friend/emailing him as stalkerish/chasing? Some people view things differently. You never know. Why take that chance and completely blow it? And if he's cute, I'm sure you're not the only girl to do this. Good time to set yourself apart. You may just have a better outcome if you do this face to face when he gets back. Edited September 17, 2013 by Zahara 1
StanMusial Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I can see being creeped out if you're not attracted to her plus it's your sisters friend which is weird So? You're just some random girl that knows his mom. Sidebar: thank you God that Ma Musial doesn't do facebook.
CarrieT Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 So? You're just some random girl that knows his mom. ^^^ *THIS* ^^^ Just cool your heals and wait it out... If it is meant to be, it will happen in good time.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 hi everyone! not sure i'm in the right forum but here goes I have a patient at work that has a cute son, I met him briefly once and she was talking to me about him the other day & said when he gets back from school we (me & him) should go out for coffee, now idk if I should wait 2 months until he comes to the office and talk to him in person OR should I add him on facebook since I know his name & have no patience to wait? i'm not sure if he would be creeped out or not For heaven's sake, ASK THE MOM if she thinks you should find him on Facebook... and (when) the mom says 'yes', THEN take that as your cue to message/add him, without needing to fear any stalkerish label. At worst case, you get to blame the mom (who would be at-fault anyway) 1
Author lildoll Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 thanks for the input ladies & gents i'm going to wait to see him in person or unless his moms says something
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