henderson14 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Do you spend more time getting ready for a date if you really like the guy or if you are more excited about the date? I ask because I've noticed that in the beginning stages of dating some girls will look totally difference on dates. Lets say I meet a girl of a dating site. The first time I see her she might now look that great, but then the "meeting" goes well and the next date she looks stunning. She obviously spent more time getting ready. Then I met this other girl. The first time she looked great, but the next time she showed up 10 minutes late and obviously didn't spend much time getting ready. Our phone convo before that didn't go that great and the date just didn't go that well either. I was wondering if there is a correlation between excitement and time spent trying to look pretty. Thanks
Phoe Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I'd spend maybe 10 minutes more than what I would on a normal day. Nothing crazy. I want to look like myself! 1
heartshaped Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I do notice I spend more time getting ready if I'm generally excited about the date/guy. Nothing over the top, but I do put in more effort. 1
MrCastle Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I don't think it's a matter of time that determines how attractive they are. It really depends on the look. She may have spent only a short time getting ready but the dress she chose and the way she wore her hair is fantastic, and then the next date she could have spent double the amount of time getting ready than she did on the first date but her dress choice and/or hairstyle choice suck and it looks like she didn't make an effort.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I definitely spend more time primping when I really like the guy and want to make a good impression. But some days I just have more or less time, so it can vary.
emva07 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) I'm one that likes to make first impressions wherever I go. That first impression usually has to last a few months for me, whether it be a new date, a new job, new friends, new neighbors, etc. I've been to professional job interviews where I spent so much time getting ready, hair, ironing my suits, hemming my pants, then when I get there there are girls who show up in leggings, a lace shirt, hooker heels, bright pink toes and a forever 21 blazer, I think "you've got to be joking!!!" I had a coworker who came to the interview looking like a million bucks, got the job and never seemed to comb her hair or wear a suit ever again. Some people just don't give a ****. To some the perception of "looking good" is different than others I suppose and the effort isn't worth it. My ex (of 3 years and we just broke up) and I knew each other before we started dating so there was never a 1st date to look good for since he already knew what i looked like. I've only been on one first date ever in my life. So I wanted to look really pretty. I wonder if my efforts will change the more I date. Dating is new to me. Edited September 17, 2013 by emva07
candie13 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 hum, not really. I mean if I really like a guy, I will prepare. But I will most certainly play down my looks, the first few times. I'll work a lot harder on appearing "effortlessly glamorous", hahaha. I hate trying too hard, gets men so self assured. Some men just love confirmation. Nope, they have to impress me as well. And if my date showed me a great time, I will make sure to blow him off... eventually, with a great look, when and if he takes me out to town.
FemmeMystere Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 What a coincidence. Yesterday, I actually timed myself to see how long it took me to get ready from start to finish when going on a "dressy" date to a nice restaurant. From start to finish, one hour, 41 mins, and 11 seconds. Date or not, I like to look polished and well-groomed. Even on "lazy" days, I'll put at least a little effort into my appearance. A sweep of lipgloss and a pair of earrings can really make a difference. It depends on the woman really, and whether she's a "I've never worn makeup in my life" type, or a "I go to Sephora so much I'm on a first name basis with all of the makeup artists" type. I will say that when I'm less excited about the date, I'll still do my hair/makeup, but my outfit will be casual (jeans/tshirt). If it's someone I'm looking forward to seeing, I'll usually wear a dress. A low-cut dress
HeartDesires Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 "I go to Sephora so much I'm on a first name basis with all of the makeup artists" ...but seriously, that's me! It takes me 2 hours to get ready for a date. 1
Gottabestrong Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Do you spend more time getting ready for a date if you really like the guy or if you are more excited about the date? Yup! If I am really into a guy I am likely to try out different outfits, do my hair in elaborate styles, spend ages perfecting my makeup etc. If I am not that into a guy I might just put on a nice top with a pair of jeans and not wash my hair again if I did it in the morning. Funnily enough my current boyfriend does not like it when I 'doll myself up'. He prefers the natural look (no makeup, hair natural, jeans and Ts). So getting ready for our dates doesn't take a lot of time now, even though I am usually counting down the hours till I see him again.
FemmeMystere Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 ...but seriously, that's me! It takes me 2 hours to get ready for a date. LOL! Me too! I thoroughly enjoy all the trappings of femininity
dashfinn Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Funnily enough my current boyfriend does not like it when I 'doll myself up'. He prefers the natural look (no makeup, hair natural, jeans and Ts). So getting ready for our dates doesn't take a lot of time now, even though I am usually counting down the hours till I see him again. As a guy, I prefer this natural look as well. I think many guys actually prefer the natural look. I'm happy to date a girl now who wears minimal amount of makeup and keeps her hair simple, like everyday style. I think she looks sexy like that. Someone mentioned the "effortlessly glamorous" look and in my eyes, she has just that. 1
waiting4u Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 I don't wear a lot of makeup and my hair is curly so it really only does one thing - curls - so I don't spend a lot of time on that kind of stuff. But if I really like the guy I'll go get a mani/pedi and maybe new earrings or a dress. I don't know how anyone could make themselves look "completely different" on the first date - whoa. And it makes no sense that someone would show up intentionally looking bad. I think everyone dresses up a little for dates.
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