Beatrixx Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I broke up with a guy for the 3rd time last week. The 1st time we dated we were together 6 months. It was a mutual break up and I went NC for 1 month before he got back in touch wanting to get back together. Our 2nd time was very brief. It must have been about 2 weeks. This time he broke up with me. I was heartbroken and went NC for 9 whole months. I was sure I would never ever have anything to do with him again. After 9 months, he got in touch with me begging me to get back with him. He said he missed me and really wanted to give it another try. He really seemed like he'd changed so I decided to give it a go. It lasted about 2 months and I ended it, realising he never changed. I've now been NC with him for a week and I really hope this is the end now. I was doing so well during my NC period of 9 months. I was almost over him. Then he came back and ruined everything. Hopefully he doesn't come back again, or at least, if he does, I'll be totally over him and moved on. Has anyone else had any experience with No Contact & On and Off Relationships? I'm interested to know whether there they keep coming back, or once the relationship has been proven to not work, they give up and they are never heard from again.
reddragon588 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Geez, three breakups is a lot. I think you have the right idea going NC for so long. Just keep doing it, and let nature run its course. If he comes back, you can re-evaluate, but after three breakups, you have to really question it. There is someone else out there that will love you too much to give you up, if you're willing to find them.
Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Been there with the last gf. In 12 months my guess is at least 3-4 mini breaks ups, from a day to 3 weeks. All except one were initiated by me. It's been 6 months since our last break up with many 2-3 days of getting together, but no dating. Almost 3 weeks ago we met and mutually agreed to NC. No texting, no seeing each other. She did email me this weekend and I replied briefly. Honestly, it should have ended the first time, which was about 5 months into the relationship.
Author Beatrixx Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 If you're serious about getting over him, why don't you change your contact details so he can't 'come back' so easily? They keep coming back because it's familiar and you make it easy. Why expend energy on being on your best behaviour, forging a new relationship when you can just go back to an old one and not work very hard? I've blocked him on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, and I've deleted his number.
barky2 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Deleting his number? Try deleting your own instead Barky
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