Bringiton Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Hello everyone. So i just recently discovered that my girlfriend of 7 years went all the way with another female. She kept this a secret from me for 2 years. They have made out a few other times as recent as a week ago. My girlfriend confessed to this me out of guilt.The Other girl is married to a childhood friend of mine and its all well within my circle of friends. Apparently this other girl kept this from her husband for a year or so. If i think about this with using the penis side of my brain i cant help but feel turned on by it. But the psychological part of my brain makes me feel like i have been cheated on in some way. I'm very confused how to feel about this. She says she feels embarrassed about this but she says she is still sexually attracted to her from time to time. She says she still loves me and wants to be with me. I know some people are going to say 3 some or swap (and even if that could happen) opening pandoras box with long time friends is very strange to me. I dont know if im over reacting, or if i should care.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 If this was just a girlfriend or FWB, it would be okay (and probably good for you). This is your wife though. No bueno. Cheating is cheating. You should be pissed.
Author Bringiton Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 If this was just a girlfriend or FWB, it would be okay (and probably good for you). This is your wife though. No bueno. Cheating is cheating. You should be pissed. It Is my girlfriend of 7 years. The other girl is married.
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 It's cheating if you consider it to be cheating, the gender of their affair partner should be irrelevant (although most men would probably be less upset about your situation than their gf cheating with another man). Do you still see a future with her? If it's been going on for a couple of years it sounds like she may see a future with this other woman.
mikei880 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Hello everyone. So i just recently discovered that my girlfriend of 7 years went all the way with another female. She kept this a secret from me for 2 years. They have made out a few other times as recent as a week ago. My girlfriend confessed to this me out of guilt.The Other girl is married to a childhood friend of mine and its all well within my circle of friends. Apparently this other girl kept this from her husband for a year or so. If i think about this with using the penis side of my brain i cant help but feel turned on by it. But the psychological part of my brain makes me feel like i have been cheated on in some way. I'm very confused how to feel about this. She says she feels embarrassed about this but she says she is still sexually attracted to her from time to time. She says she still loves me and wants to be with me. I know some people are going to say 3 some or swap (and even if that could happen) opening pandoras box with long time friends is very strange to me. I dont know if im over reacting, or if i should care. Pandora's box is open. This girl has exposed herself for what she is. In my opinion she has some soul searching to do to decide what she really wants from life and what her sexual identity is. I think you need to set some boundaries on what is acceptable behavior from a SO. I have some experience with this, had it happen to me. The bad behavior is on her , not you...
Solcita2 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 The fact that the other person happens to be another girl is irrelevant. What should worry you is the fact that: 1) She was able to keep it a secret from you for so long... THAT is cheating. 2) She did it again and still feels something about the other person. 3) The fact that the other person is not available and the fact that she's a girl might be the reason why she's still with you (too mess up.) This is the only moment where the gender of the other person is relevant to me... if it was an available guy then I think it would be messier... However, messy or not, she chated more than once and was able to keep it a secret for almost 30% of your relationship... how does it feel?
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