Girl with boyfriend, but acts interested?

[spiritofjosh]

Ok, I don't want to sound like some homewrecker because I've a genuinely respectable man. But here's the deal and I hope this doesn't end up really long..

 

At least 4 or 5 months ago my friend knows this girl who cuts his hair, they've been friends for a while and through him she happened to see my instagram then started following me. I asked my friend about her and he said she has a boyfriend but to go for it anyway. I didn't so much go for it but I did add her on facebook. Immediately she liked a few of my statuses I recently posted, it was quick but no big deal.

 

Anyway my friend texted me the following day saying she was asking him about me, like who I was and stuff and he told her I thought she was cute and her response was "too bad I have a boyfriend :/" In fact I took it as a good thing because it wasn't a complete shut down so I brushed it off.

 

That weekend that friend I mentioned, myself and two others went to the movies and behind us that girl gets in line, with her boyfriend. I happen to look at her and she makes a very serious eye contact with me, like the "oh..it's you..." stare and I'm sure that's what I gave back. No offense but her boyfriend was a goofball that I never imagined would be her boyfriend because she's gorgeous, but he didn't pay any attention to me. In the theater my friends and I sat down and her and her boyfriend walked in front of where we sat and again she made the same eye contact with me, and did once more while we were leaving later on. Again I tried not to think much of it because I know she has a boyfriend.

 

Months go by and her usual facebook activity with me lessened and I sort of forgot I had a small crush on her. Until a couple weeks ago that friend texted me and said she told him to come to this bar near my house and to bring me and that she had a female friend she wanted my friend to meet (I thought this was strange that she said to bring me). So we went and she ran up and hugged me and said she was happy to finally meet me face to face and kept sitting by me all night being friendly. The following weekend, same thing, her asking me to come to the bar. She agreed to drive my friend home that night because he was drunk and I was ready to leave when she asked for me to come with them and she would drive me all the way back to my car after, completely out of her way, I agreed. I drove her car and she sat with me up front and took my glasses and wore them the whole ride and back, and had taken a few pictures of her and myself she would post on her facebook. After the night ended and I got home I got a message from her on facebook saying thanks for driving her car for her and that she was sorry if she embarrassed herself in front of me etc. The following morning more messages of the same caliber. We talked through there most of the day while she was at work and I gave her my number to text me if she got bored, she said good and texted me immediately after.

 

The next day I asked my friend what he was doing and he said hanging out with that girl, not inviting me (I'll add he had a crush on her but knows he doesn't have a chance). Instead she texted me inviting me without my friend even mentioning he talked to me. I met up with them and we just went for a walk on this trail. After I went home she texted me some more, nothing major.

 

I didn't hear from her in a couple days after until the other night she texted me kind of late just to talk and that she was with her friend and stuff. The next day she asked me to hang out, just her and I so we did and just talked and whatever. The next night she said she was going to her friend's mom's karaoke party at some bar and said if I wasn't doing anything to stop by. She kept up with me most of the day reminding me about it and I finally went but not until way later than she asked, she bought me a beer and seemed very happy to be around me. That night I noticed on her instagram she posted a picture of herself smiling and the caption said "soooo happy and so sleepy, goodnight." I immediately thought this related to me because I was the only one she was with that night besides much older parents and her best friend she sees every day. The next day I was going to a party and we didn't text too much but she did later that night asking if I had fun and to say goodnight. The following morning (yesterday) she texted me when she woke up and I told her I got driven home and had to figure out how to get back to my friends (half hour from me) to get my car. She said she would drive me, assuming she planned to ask me to hang out prior and I declined at first because she would have to drive 15 minutes south to get me, the half hour drive north than back to her house but she insisted and drove me. I offered her to hang out with my friends and I for a little bit and she said ok and seemed to have fun.

 

That night we talked a little more but nothing crazy. Today she texted me later in the afternoon asking how work was then if I wanted to come to see her friends band with her tonight (not sure if I'm gonna go yet). But almost daily she asks me to hang out and has NEVER spoken a word about her boyfriend to me and is literally NEVER with him. She's either always at work or with her best friend, who she was with today. Literally to the point that I forge she has a boyfriend because of how much she tries hanging out with me and how much this kids like some mystery. Apparently she told my friend she's unhappy with him but is scared to break up with him and hurt his feelings and needs courage to do it...?

 

On facebook she's been posting a few things that relate to me, like inside jokes I made with her. I've been purposely posting lyrics from songs that relate to her and my situation and everytime she "likes" it, even if she's the only one that does. One example is from a Get Up Kids song that says "as much as I would like to I can't put my hands all over you" and she was the only to like it. No big deal because it's facebook but she doesn't ever like our mutual friend's stuff it's always me.

 

I apologize for this being long-winded but there seems to be a lot going on here. I do have a crush on her, she's cute, nice, smart and funny and I feel very comfortable around her but I'm not sure what's going on. I don't want to feel like I'm being used or that she just likes the perks of having a boyfriend and the attention from somebody new, even though I'm never the one who texts first, it's always her. It's weird to me that she has a boyfriend and never sees him and spends most of her free time with me...I don't want to be nosey though and ask what the deal is exactly because what if she really is just that friendly and really just likes me as a good friend? She doesn't invited me to hang out with others anymore, just her mainly. She doesn't cling to her cell phone around me, always asks me about myself and definitely seems nervous around me, plays with her hair etc.

 

I just don't know if I should back off, go for it or stay the same. And by the same I mean from the beginning of this thread, that I'm not trying to break them up. I act like I do have an interest in her but not one I'm pursuing and I'm being very careful about that. Basically keeping my guard up. I like being with her so I genuinely want to hang out when she asks but like tonight I decided I'm not gonna force myself to go out with her, so she can see I don't jump at EVERY bone she may thrown.

 

Anybody have advice? I mean, I'm taking it as it comes and not getting my hopes up but I have had an interest in her for months now and it seems like she may have interest back because she hasn't been shady to me and always keeps the plans she makes with me. I just have no clue what to think about her relationship unless she has a big conscious. Thanks for anybody who took their time to read this, it's greatly appreciated.

[giblesp]

If you ever end up getting involved with her, you now know what she'll be like with other men behind your back.

[spiritofjosh]

After every night this week of her asking me to hang out, two nights I did, I finally asked her what the deal with her boyfriend is if she's spending so much time with me. Apparently her and her boyfriend broke up over a week ago and that it was finally over after being potentially done for months now. She said she finally broke it off. After this she asked me to hang out and before I went home we kissed a lot and she looked so overwhelmingly happy and got all giggly and stuff, I felt really good. Later on she texted me a bunch and same as soon as she woke up this morning, seemingly genuinely happy.

 

But I can't help but wonder if I'm just going to be a rebound? I mean her and her boyfriend dated less than a year, broke up recently but apparently their relationship has been on the outs for quite some time. She doesn't bring him up at all, hasn't once in front of me and doesn't ever seem to be bothered or upset when she's around me, same when we talk throughout the day. Last night she went to use the bathroom and her female friend that was there with us asked me what I thought about her because she does like me and that she's always talking about me. I'm taking in all kinds of good signs but I can't help worrying that I'm going to end up being a rebound.

 

On another note, it's clear I'm the only person she's talking to as well, according to her friend and the fact she asks me to hang out with her literally every day. Also thinking back to how it seemed she reacted towards me when we first met, so maybe she's always had a thing for me and is finally pursuing it?