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Why is it assumed average or unattractive women are less likely to turn a man down?

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xxoo Established Member

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I think the idea is to open your range of interest to a larger pool of potential women, including those who are not super attractive.

 

And this advice makes sense to me, because the people with this problem are often not super attractive (by their own description). So if you want someone to look past your appearance and give you a chance, you should be open to doing the same.

phineas Established Member

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If im gonna get rejected anyway i might as well get rejectd by good looking women im attracted to,your odds dont increase by hitting on unattractive women

 

Figured this out last yr.

The majority of "hot" women are just women.

Only a handful really think they are too good for the majority of the men out there.

 

Also i've noticed it's the women between above average & almost hot that are the most stuck-up.

 

I think it's because these are the women most men approach because they think they have a chance.

phineas Established Member

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that is very vague and unspecific. A lot of men expect to be blown off their socks and that sometimes happens... for a while. But staying with a woman means knowing her and thus, the mystery gets killed. Hence, they start pinning over another woman who would be able to blow them out of their socks. Different, always surprising...

 

It's very dangerous to have unreasonable high expectations from love. You might set yourself for a dire disappointment. Just sayin'...

 

THAT smacks of insecurity & I see this way more than you would believe at my age and it's a major turn off.

 

An attractive, intelligent woman who thinks she isn't good enough to keep me from wandering?

 

No thanks.

Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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It really depends on how realistic you are being. I know a guy that is 32 and never had a gf. He is pretty cute but his standards are unbelievable. He wants a blonde with huge boobs and a tiny waist, that is 18-22. He ignores women that are clearly interested in him.

 

So you know what he does? He pays for escorts that fit this description because he doesn't meet anyone like that in real life. He is very defensive about rather paying for his ideal than settling for what he can get. He is probably going to die alone.

 

I definitely do think of how attractive I am when it comes to men I am interested in. I don't bother getting to know really hot men. There are still plenty that I consider "in my league" that I am attracted to though.

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PJKino Established Member

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I think the idea is to open your range of interest to a larger pool of potential women, including those who are not super attractive.

 

And this advice makes sense to me, because the people with this problem are often not super attractive (by their own description). So if you want someone to look past your appearance and give you a chance, you should be open to doing the same.

 

We're attracted to what were attracted to..If i find a women physcially repulsive theyres no way i can ever engage in certain acts no matter how nice she is..id rather masturbate..

 

Plus arent you the one who alwasy claim men have it easier because we can turn a women on more then physically yet know youre saying everyone has to get with their exact physsical equivalent which one is it:laugh:

candie13 Established Member

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THAT smacks of insecurity & I see this way more than you would believe at my age and it's a major turn off.

 

An attractive, intelligent woman who thinks she isn't good enough to keep me from wandering?

 

No thanks.

 

Why would an attractive and intelligent woman have to "keep you from wandering"? You're the winner of the Nobel Peace prize or the Pulitzer, or something?

 

Nobody is supposed to make any "good enough" affirmations here, both partners are supposed to enjoy the other person's presence and have fun.

 

The mere fact that the woman has to "keep her man's interest" shows you have unfounded superiority complexes, most likely steaming from belittling women. You must be a fun date, I bet you must have plenty :rolleyes:!

 

You are taking my words out of context, but nice try!

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StanMusial Established Member

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Yeah it sounds good on paper, "lower your standards" to get a date, then you realize damn that won't help I need some of these betches to lower theirs LOL.

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A woman's looks aren't indicative of how she'll respond to your advances. Just as there are many beautiful women out there with low self-esteem, there are butt ugly women who think they're the ish. The only thing you can do is pursue the women you find attractive and hope for the best. The risk of rejection is always there, no matter who you hit on, and there's no particular way to avoid it.

 

If she rejects you, don't take it personally. If she responds favorably, don't take that personally either. A person's approval/rejection of you is entirely about them. Dating, courtship and relationships are much less stressful when you remove ego from the equation.

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xxoo Established Member

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We're attracted to what were attracted to..If i find a women physcially repulsive theyres no way i can ever engage in certain acts no matter how nice she is..id rather masturbate..

 

Plus arent you the one who alwasy claim men have it easier because we can turn a women on more then physically yet know youre saying everyone has to get with their exact physsical equivalent which one is it:laugh:

 

I'm not saying everyone has to get with their exact physical equivalent. I'm saying that men might have more success if they could get past strictly visual attraction and find deeper attraction.

 

If you can't, you can't. But those who can have an advantage in finding a satisfying relationship. I can.

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I'm not saying everyone has to get with their exact physical equivalent. I'm saying that men might have more success if they could get past strictly visual attraction and find deeper attraction.

 

If you can't, you can't. But those who can have an advantage in finding a satisfying relationship. I can.

 

This is not a gender specific problem. In fact, most of the issues in the dating section are not gender specific.

 

A woman that absolutely requires a man be x height is no better or worse than a man who must date a busty woman.

xxoo Established Member

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This is not a gender specific problem. In fact, most of the issues in the dating section are not gender specific.

 

A woman that absolutely requires a man be x height is no better or worse than a man who must date a busty woman.

 

I absolutely agree that it isn't not a gender specific problem. The OP was phrased as men, so I answered that way.

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