sickpuppy Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Just wondering what posters opinions are on sleeping around while dating/seeing other people. Is it considered normal these days? I for one see one person at a time. I may talk to a few but I'll see one at a time and wouldn't sleep around in the first place especially if I decided to get serious with someone. To me if you're seeing different people AND sleeping with them you're actually screwing yourself up. 1
Phantom888 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I'm with you on this. Before exclusivity, I can talk to different women, and even go on dinner dates. But I would not sleep with anyone unless we are exclusive.
carhill Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Would you sleep around while seeing/dating different people? It isn't compatible with my relationship/sexual style, so no. However, I'm not averse to dating different people concurrently, relative to getting to know them, presuming they were strangers prior to dating.
BradJacobs Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 To me if you're seeing different people AND sleeping with them you're actually screwing yourself up. And some would argue that if you're not sleeping around while dating then you're letting sex drive a portion of your decisions. If you're getting sex on the regular do you think you'd take longer to get to know someone before putting all of your eggs in one basket?
Author sickpuppy Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 Most guys do it and feel entitled to it. A woman is the devil who is incapable of human relationships if she does it. Double standards. I have friends right now using Match.com and OKCUPID.com and they regularly complain about this phenomenon. When I did online dating, the only men who didnt do this were ones who couldnt get girls. So you want to be a man?
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Yeah, as a woman I've done multi-dating and sleeping with several guys 'at once' (within the same, say, month period). I always told people up front that I was dating around and not exclusive with anybody so they could decide whether to proceed or not. Funnily enough it made several guys really crazy to be with me, and pin me down into being exclusive with them. I really wasn't interested though, not the right time of my life for me. Sometimes sex really is just sex, it's just a fun physical act and then you say goodbye as friends until the next time you hang out. It's no big deal for me.
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