alexisjones289 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I started a new job a few months ago at a vet clinic within the past 6 months. One of our vendors, who comes twice a week, I always thought was decent looking but never much beyond "oh he is a nice looking guy." A month ago he started asking me how my weekend was and described his. I work in a very busy vet clinic so I rarely have time to chat. I generally hand them the key they need while I am on the phone or dealing with a client. So for me to have a second to chat is rare. I cordially responded to him but thought he was just asking how it was going. I walked into a back room to handle some business there when my 45 year old coworker approached and said "cute guy hitting on you and you do nothing....Hello!" I replied with a simple "ohhh." She then said "yeah ohhh dummy!" I guess I didn't realize that he was hitting on me. I went up front and my coworker further explained that she notices that he always goes to me for the key, even if she is sitting closer, and made a few other comments as to him being attracted to me which I didn't catch but looking back are likely true. So it took me a month and I finally worked up the courage to leave him my number on a log they have to complete to prove they picked up their product. It simply said "I am always so busy when you come in but if you would like to talk sometime call me." He did take the note because I check immediately after they left and it was gone. He never called this weekend, and I left my number Thursday, so I figured he wasn't interested so no big deal. Then this morning his company came for their pick up and there was a new person with the other driver. I assume he asked to have his route change. I feel kind of like a jerk for making him get his route changed and embarrassed because that wasn't my intention. I feel he could have text me a simple "I am in a relationship" even if that wasn't the case, versus having his work life disrupted. Just looking for advice on how to handle this and get others thoughts. Thanks!
TigerCub Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Aaaw that sucks! But at least you tried. It's awesome that you took a chance. Sorry it didn't work out like you'd hoped. As for him 'rearranging his life' because now it might be awkward - I totally think that's on him. Like you said he could have sent you a simple text saying 'Thanks, but I'm in a relationship' or just a 'thanks but now isn't a good time for me' whatever - but he didn't and that's totally on him. So don't feel bad that you took a chance. If it's awkward, it's because he's made it awkward and wasn't smart enough to handle it better. 5
Lansing Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Umm... Not sure how to put this nicely but do you consider yourself attractive... Or would you think "this guy is out of my league" normally? I am not sure why the guy wouldn't give you a chance... If I found the girl attractive I would give her a chance BUT if I wasn't that into her and I was just being friendly then I would be concerned that I was leading her on by contacting her.
pteromom Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I feel kind of like a jerk for making him get his route changed and embarrassed because that wasn't my intention. I feel he could have text me a simple "I am in a relationship" even if that wasn't the case, versus having his work life disrupted. Just looking for advice on how to handle this and get others thoughts. Thanks! You didn't MAKE him get his route changed. That was his choice (if he has even changed his route and isn't just off sick today or something). You took a risk and it didn't pay off. Sometimes that happens. But you should feel proud of yourself for doing it. Who knows why he didn't call. Could be he's in a relationship. Could be his company has a strict policy against dating clients. So just assume there is something going on with him, and move forward. 3
pteromom Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I am not sure why the guy wouldn't give you a chance... If I found the girl attractive I would give her a chance. Even if you had a girlfriend? 1
Author alexisjones289 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I think I am moderately attractive. I did also consider that he may be on vacation or something similar. However, it is rather coincidental. I told myself from the beginning to plan for the negative and hope for the best outcome. I did notice that he seemed more pleasant around me than other coworkers which surprises me that the outcome wasnt more positive.
Author alexisjones289 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I also forgot to mentiom that I put my number on my key tag hoping he would take it off of there but he never did. Hence the forward note
nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Don't read too much into his lack of response or his not coming into your office. You took a risk, and perhaps it didn't end the way you wanted it to thins time, but you didn't do anything wrong at all! Gutsy moves like this build confidence and next time it might work! Good on you for trying! 1
MidwestUSA Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Hey, maybe he's still working up the nerve! Maybe he is on vacation or something, hence the other driver. You never know, it's only Tuesday. But, either way, congrats to you for a gutsy move! 1
Author alexisjones289 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Thanks for all the thoughtful replies. Yeah I plan on not saying anything to anyone involved, likely ever, but definitely at least not until a few weeks pass and I know whether or not he was on vacation or mad a shady move. Thanks again. I will probably post an update in a few weeks. 1
Author alexisjones289 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 He has only returned to the clinic once since. It was over Christmas time and he was smiley and made comment that he hadn't seen me in a while but went about his day. I responded in a nice but standoffish manner. Oh well. More fish in the sea
topaMAXX Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 LOL yeah, this guy is extremely attractive (possibly model looks). If he wasn't, there's no way this thread would be brought back up 6 months later. OP, just stick to your own league for dating and you'll have a much better time.
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