Joebloggs91 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 So I posted on here about a week ago - I broke up with my first love, and my best friend for the past 18 months. She hasn't taken it well at all - nor have I for that matter, even though it was me that ended it. There were some differences starting to show over the last few months that doubted my ability to spend the rest of my life with her. I figured that if I was getting these feelings just over a year into our relationship, what would it be like a few years down the line? I was also struggling being in a dead end Monday - Friday job with no progression, I needed to sort myself out. I was open and honest about everything and didn't string her along. She is desperately trying to find ways to hate me, I guess that way it is easier to get over what has happened and move on from the situation. I have been called every name going, accused of cheating, lying. You name it. None of which I have done, I can assure you. All of her family (which I was very close to) have turned against me also. Why have I got this stabbing feeling when I imagine her with someone else? I know I have made the right decision and yes I miss her but I need to focus on myself, and sorting out my career. Just the thought of her being with somebody else, particularly her ex who cheated several times makes me feel sick. Has anybody else felt this way after breaking up with someone? I know it was my doing but I had that gut feeling that it just wasn't right anymore. I am confused as to why I am having the feelings of jealousy when I broke up with her. Thanks in advance.
JoelBarish Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Well it's obvious you still love her. I mean look how much concern you have for her feelings and well being. But you raise some valid points about your differences being too much and that maybe you two would be better with others. It's clear you need time to think. Does your love for her out weigh the other things that you are concerned about? Only time will tell if you can step back and look at the situation clearly. If you truly do love her and think it's best for you both to move on then you are just going to have to tough it out. I know it's tough but you gotta be tougher if that's what you want. KILL THE BEAR! On a side note, as someone who has been dumped, it is nice to see things from the other side of the fence for a change. I mean when I am dumped, I wonder over and over if the person who dumped me cared....if they were going through the pain that I was. You obviously are going through pain and that makes me feel that yes, my ex who dumped me, still cares too.
alex1967 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I wish all dumpers were decent like you.
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