RavenWolf Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I've been married for 12 years and it is now over. Eventually I would maybe like to date again. Of course, I'm no where the same as I was. I'm losing a lot of weight and am getting close to my goal weight, so I'm sure my weight will not be a problem. However, there are so many things "wrong" with me now that I wonder if any man would want to be with me? Some of these issues are NOT correctible by any means. Some may be but I can't afford it. I really want to love myself again and know there is no chance in Hades someone will love me if I don't love myself first. But I worry that when I get to the point that I am happy with myself, I won't have the opportunity to share my life with someone. Anyone else feel this way? Women who aren't physically perfect have a much harder time finding someone than those who don't have a bunch a bunch of physical imperfections. Women are much less judgemental of men who have physical "flaws" and that makes me so nervous. Any advice? Opinions? Life experiences?
Babolat Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I've been married for 12 years and it is now over. Eventually I would maybe like to date again. Of course, I'm no where the same as I was. I'm losing a lot of weight and am getting close to my goal weight, so I'm sure my weight will not be a problem. However, there are so many things "wrong" with me now that I wonder if any man would want to be with me? Some of these issues are NOT correctible by any means. Some may be but I can't afford it. I really want to love myself again and know there is no chance in Hades someone will love me if I don't love myself first. But I worry that when I get to the point that I am happy with myself, I won't have the opportunity to share my life with someone. Anyone else feel this way? Women who aren't physically perfect have a much harder time finding someone than those who don't have a bunch a bunch of physical imperfections. Women are much less judgemental of men who have physical "flaws" and that makes me so nervous. Any advice? Opinions? Life experiences? I felt this way for a short period of time after I moved out of the house from the ex. What helped me was just getting busy, doing things with my friends, working out, meeting new people, finding new hobbies/passions, etc. If you cannot afford therapy, there are a lot of great books. Not knowing "what's wrong with you" I can't really add much more though.
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