Women giving it up soooooo easy!

[KathyM]

Problem is most men feel entitled to sex early on and will call you a prude. I have 2 friends that never put out earlier than 2 months and guys next them like its nobody's business over it and call them prude.

 

With women and sex, nothing we ever do is right. Guys will b*** either way. If you wait, the guy gets turned off and thinks you are prude. My new favorite I see on this site is that girls that make you wait must just be bad at sex. Or, if a girl does it too early the guy loses interest (despite what the men here say, this happens ALOT. they just say it doesnt so they can get easier sex), judges her and loses respect (though nobody judges men for being sluts) or she turns into a f*** buddy (something men aspire to have)

 

I have been on this site for over 2 years reading regularly and I have often seen the same male posters call women names for putting out too early and then calling them names when theyre not putting out. *facepalm* You just cant win!

Good post. Actually, you CAN win, though, by not putting out so easily, because the guys who would dump you for not having quick and easy sex are not worth keeping anyway. You weed out a lot of losers and users by waiting.

[KathyM]

The problem with threads like this is that it implies(wrongly)that sex is something women don't really like... They just give it to men in exchange for relationships and if your not getting a relationship your being "used"

The problem is when women who actually WANT a relationship are being misled by men who only want sex. They are made to believe the man is looking for a real relationship, when actually, some are only interested in the quick and easy lay, and will mislead to get it. For some women (probably a small minority), they may be only interested in the sex, but women are really not wired to be that way. They are wired hormonally to become emotionally attached to men and be more relationship oriented.

[HappyLove]

Women have more to risk than a man in a sexual relationship. Women can get pregnant, and a lot more vulnerable to STDs. Plus the emotional aspects. Women are more emotionally bonded after sex... That's the way it is. It's an evolutionary adaptation, hard-coded into the DNA.

 

 

 

Which is why so many need to slow down and get to know a man.

[KathyM]

If one person has sex and wants it to go somewhere while the other one is just like "OHHHH SEX" it is being used...sorry you emotionless and uncompassionate men cannot understand such an occurrence.

 

You all are really naiive by the way if you really think there are alot of men that exist that will wait 2 months for sex...they are rare. I have a tell it how it is personality, not living in the dreamworld like many people that post here

I actually know a lot of men who would wait if the woman was worth waiting for. I also know some men who prefer to wait themselves because they want to actually know the person before being intimate with them. In fact, there are men on LS who have posted that they prefer to know the woman first before being intimate.

[candie13]

beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, indeed!

 

and I do believe in that strange law of resonance that says that people attract other people similar to them. I accept it. I hate it, occasionally, but I accept it.

[HappyLove]

It amazes me how much men stick together. Are you ALL not going to admit that your friends, not even one that you knew in your entire life, no one has ever led a naive woman on for sex?

[ltjg45]

This thread reminds me as to why I have no friends and I kinda prefer it that way.

 

I'm nothing like the other 99% of men is. I don't push for sex. If I approach a woman, it's because I'm interested in her personality. I will NEVER even mention the word "sex" with her. If she wants it with me, I will let her decide when that time comes.

 

I have gotten horny at least twice every day and I compress it down. I don't act on it because I know the women nearby won't tolerant me acting on such emotions.

 

This explains why I'm a virgin at my new age of 27 but I rather be that way than just another male who wants to bang every decent-looking woman he can find.

[mesmerized]

It's not a matter of fault.

 

Generally speaking, a woman is going to be hurt more if a guy loses interest after sex. She's more likely to feel "used", whereas he's more likely to feel that at least he had sex. So it's smart for the woman to be more cautious.

 

You clearly haven't known the guys I rejected after having sex with them.

[HappyLove]

"Prefer to know" to men is shorter than 2 months...your time frame is def longer

 

Men wont admit they use women for sex because it requires looking in the mirror and realizing you aren't a nice person. I also think men tend to think much more about their own feelings than anothers feelings. Men are more into themselves...

 

Just so you know, Ive been in positions where I was going through a dry spell and kinda horny and had males I knew that liked me I could have slept with even though I wasn't into them...still couldn't do it. Most guys don't have that sort of conscience

 

 

 

Interesting, maybe they justify it in some way like oh I really did mean everything I told her but not feeling it anymore. So they feel like technically they weren't lying...at the time. Or when they say oh but I did want more, I guess it just so happens that they disappeared.

[StanMusial]

It amazes me how much men stick together. Are you ALL not going to admit that your friends, not even one that you knew in your entire life, no one has ever led a naive woman on for sex?

 

 

I know guys who have.

[candie13]

You clearly haven't known the guys I rejected after having sex with them.

 

yeah, but you have to agree that this usually happens if sex is bad. If sex is mind blowing, rejection doesn't really happen. Not straight away, anyway .

[candie13]

Interesting, maybe they justify it in some way like oh I really did mean everything I told her but not feeling it anymore. So they feel like technically they weren't lying...at the time. Or when they say oh but I did want more, I guess it just so happens that they disappeared.

 

Please, the official version for the next girl is "things didn't work out" and not "I never had the intention to settle down and have kids and actually wasted x years of that girl's life". These guys are the worst. Guys lurching for night stands... meah, you learn to "smell" those guys, after a while.

[Ruby Slippers]

You clearly haven't known the guys I rejected after having sex with them.

I've never had a guy just disappear on me, or even fade out. But I've had some hurt, angry, and downright crazy responses from guys I broke it off with, even though I'm always as gentle and fair with it as possible.

[StanMusial]

If I could tell a woman only 1 thing about men that sums up their behavior it is that men think about themselves before other people. It really is true. So its only natural AFTER a guy has sex, he will conveniently say "I didn't mean it"

 

I could write a book on the justifications men use to excuse their behavior...not just sex but really any behavior to fits their desires that hurts women. I purposefully have done the same things as them (do something crappy and make an excuse) and then they get really angry...how sad they cannot take their own medicine

 

The thread topic is "Women giving it up soooooooooooo easy." You're just man bashing at this point.

 

I know more than a few girls that were pumped and dumped after being EXPLICITLY WARNED about the guy involved. I can tell just by reading some of the replies in this thread, that if I introduced some of these female posters to certain guys I know, with the SAME such warning(s), that the EXACT same result would happen. I've seen it time and again.

 

Just read some of the posts in here. All over the map, round and round in circles and circuitous routes, bashing and thrashing and the problem is as plain as the nose on their face. It's insanity.

[crederer]

Theres way too many factors here. Of all my long term relationships, I've had sex on the first or second date.

 

I've had ONS where the woman was not impressed with that fact.

 

It really comes down to whether the man is really interested or not. Sex on a first date, to me, is not the nail in the coffin as many people seem to think.

 

So if you like sex, and have it early on, good for you just don't think it means the guy is into you. Most guys I know would screw a watermelon if it came down to it.

[HappyLove]

"I know more than a few girls that were pumped and dumped after being EXPLICITLY WARNED about the guy involved. I can tell just by reading some of the replies in this thread, that if I introduced some of these female posters to certain guys I know, with the SAME such warning(s), that the EXACT same result would happen. I've seen it time and again.

 

Just read some of the posts in here. All over the map, round and round in circles and circuitous routes, bashing and thrashing and the problem is as plain as the nose on their face. It's insanity."

 

 

True, even the women who clearly give it up too soon, who have posters question them why would they give it up in one date, they will deny deny deny. Oh but my best friends cousins sister friend had sex the first night and are still together. Some will have to go through this several times before they realize it doesn't work.

[crederer]

It works plenty of times, it's just they EXPECT a relationship after. That's the dangerous part, the expectation after ward.

[crederer]

They don't necessarily expect it, they just want it and if you're not going to provide it, they'll find it somewhere else.

 

Not saying it's right or not, just saying if I go on 5 dates with a girl and she's not having sex with my by then, my FWB is getting a phone call.

[candie13]

You are like 99% of the male population and only value women for their ****ability then

 

Don't get mad when I say men only want sex!

 

Ok, let's assume they only want sex. What about you, what do you want?

 

And how do you see handling his situation where men only "want sex"? What are you going to do about it?