Ireallydontknow Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 %$^&*)**&%^#^&(#&(^#(*^#)&(*#)(&*()#*(#)#(^@*&@(*)@*(&@&@(*@&(&@&*@ I can't even eat breakfast. She deleted a blog of ours and it sent a notification to me that she did and sure enough I saw her face. I almost f****** cried right there. I am on the verge of it. I didn't want to block her because I didn't want to see her face and go on her profile. I figured since the damage is done, I went on her profile and blocked her. I feel sick. I feel so sick, as she posts new pictures of herself, smiling, make up on. Her new boyfriend "Awe so pretty." I just wanted to smash the screen. Please loveshack send me some strength. I have her removed from everything now. I thought I had it set up to where I'd never have to see her again...I feel so horrible.
Babolat Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 %$^&*)**&%^#^&(#&(^#(*^#)&(*#)(&*()#*(#)#(^@*&@(*)@*(&@&@(*@&(&@&*@ I can't even eat breakfast. She deleted a blog of ours and it sent a notification to me that she did and sure enough I saw her face. I almost f****** cried right there. I am on the verge of it. I didn't want to block her because I didn't want to see her face and go on her profile. I figured since the damage is done, I went on her profile and blocked her. I feel sick. I feel so sick, as she posts new pictures of herself, smiling, make up on. Her new boyfriend "Awe so pretty." I just wanted to smash the screen. Please loveshack send me some strength. I have her removed from everything now. I thought I had it set up to where I'd never have to see her again...I feel so horrible. Unfriend her from FB, then you will never have to see this stuff. 1
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 my friend calm down.. please think possitively.... you no longer together no need to tire yourself... she dumped you right ? not that matters but to make you feel slightly better .what comes around goes around too... she will find the karma soon,,,, please do me a favor and love your self.... now. de idolize her now see? you see her? yes its nth more than an immature dumper... nth more... move on 1
lauri Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I know exactly how you feel. I deleted my ex off of facebook but I still creep her profile from time to time. She has most of her profile private thank god. What you are going through is normal. The first step to making yourself better is realizing it is over and you need to move on for YOURSELF. Even if your goal is to get back with her, you need to move on yourself to improve and become a better more confident you! I'm currently going through a rough time accepting what happened, but what did I do? I cut my ex girlfriend off of facebook immediately and didn't give her my new number. I quit her cold turkey...sure I have my moments but I know in the end at least I'm the one who is in control of my emotions more and I won't give her the chance to do anything to drive me crazy.
Author Ireallydontknow Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 I had her removed from facebook. I wanted to keep the line open just in case. I'm not sure if it was false hope or something else. Probably false hope. Everyone I am so pathetic I would take back someone who treated me like crap, degraded me, emotionally cheated on me, then eventually physically cheated on me. I guess this is part of the process. She is now blocked, I have her removed from EVERYTHING. It's time to move on if possible. I am going to work out so freaking hard this morning. 1
lauri Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 There you go. Just focus on yourself. Just think like this: Its her loss. And if you think you'll never take her back you'll be doing yourself a huge favour - if shes the way you describe her then she will most likely do it all to you again. Karma will come around - you will find someone worth your time soon enough but only as long as you pull yourself together and rebuild yourself.
JDPT Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Steer clear of any social media apparatus, I personally believe is the most detrimental and evil creation in the world. Have you been making this a habit lately and having the "just one more time, just one more time!" mentality? Make a conscious decision that this is for your own good. What you don't see won't hurt apply this concept as its so fundamental to your recovery process. 2
Nicoleiia Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I hate facebook. Seeing my ex with someone new almost gave me a stroke. I just can't do it anymore. It kills. So, I set goals for myself. I won't go back on facebook until I'm 30 (26 now) and that's the end of it. By then, I wont give a rats a$$ what's going on with my ex. You need to totally get rid of using FB and fast!
shayla Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 It has been almost 3 years since my ex dumped me and married another woman 2 months later. Even now, I do not go to his or the other woman's facebook. Nothing good can come from it, believe me! I have never gone to either of their profiles and came away happy. Only miserable. 2
L1ght Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 When your ex is with somebody else you really do have to let everything go. Delete everything and create new accounts while informing your friends if you need to. She has her life with somebody else and you just have to focus on your own life now because thinking about her with someone else is just gonna make you feel like crap everyday until you let it go....so let it go. 1
crazy1234 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 %$^&*)**&%^#^&(#&(^#(*^#)&(*#)(&*()#*(#)#(^@*&@(*)@*(&@&@(*@&(&@&*@ I can't even eat breakfast. She deleted a blog of ours and it sent a notification to me that she did and sure enough I saw her face. I almost f****** cried right there. I am on the verge of it. I didn't want to block her because I didn't want to see her face and go on her profile. I figured since the damage is done, I went on her profile and blocked her. I feel sick. I feel so sick, as she posts new pictures of herself, smiling, make up on. Her new boyfriend "Awe so pretty." I just wanted to smash the screen. Please loveshack send me some strength. I have her removed from everything now. I thought I had it set up to where I'd never have to see her again...I feel so horrible. Its going to get better i promise..bt dont ever look at her profile ever again..remove and delete everything you had with her..for now just hang in there..go to a frend's place or somewhere you can feel better.
Chi townD Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I had her removed from facebook. I wanted to keep the line open just in case. I'm not sure if it was false hope or something else. Probably false hope. Everyone I am so pathetic I would take back someone who treated me like crap, degraded me, emotionally cheated on me, then eventually physically cheated on me. I guess this is part of the process. She is now blocked, I have her removed from EVERYTHING. It's time to move on if possible. I am going to work out so freaking hard this morning. About time! I think I advised you in the beginning to block her. Now, you see why it's important to do this. Okay, well. Nothing you can do to feel better about this other than wait out the storm that's brewing inside you. So, now it's time to heal and move on. Start making positive changes in your life and KEEP BUSY!!!!
hotpotato Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Unfriend her or block her status updates from you news feed.
Author Ireallydontknow Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 Alrighty. I didn't go to look at her profile. She showed up in my feed because she was deleting something we both owned at the time. Why now? I have no clue, the website was dead for 4 years. I WAS going to block her but I didn't want to see her freaking face. Well the damage was done and I went ahead and did it and I feel great, kind of. As great as I'm going to feel. I worked out hard and I'll continue to do so. I thought I had kept it from where she would show up. I don't know. I'm dumb I DID delete her ASAP when we broke up. I didn't reach out, or anything. I looked at her picture, cringed, wanted to write "How can someone so pretty be so ugly inside? or How many pictures did it take to get the one that makes you not look fat?" But I didn't I blocked her and moved on. In good news. girls seem to be noticing me more now that I've lost weight. I'm just going to keep losing, WATCH OUT LADIES <3
Peanut9330 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) I personally do not understand why NC and not stalking an Ex is so hard for people. Everyone knows nothing good will come of it and more than likely you are going to get your feelings hurt. Yet, they do it anyway. I'd rather be kicked really hard in the nuts than contact someone who dumped me or stalk an Ex. Way I see it, being kicked in the nuts will be far less painful and not hurt nearly as long. The only conclusion I can come up with... Some people choose / want to be miserable. There is no other explanation. It's not that they choose to be miserable sometimes it's just really hard to let go. If you've been with someone for a significant amount of time and grown to love them deeply it can be really hard when they leave you. Emotions are all over the place and at a time like this it's hard to be logical most people make choices based upon their emotions. Which is why they do things like snoop on the ex's facebook or try to see what's going on in their lives. OP however didn't go snooping it was by total accident that this happened. All I can say is that it will get better in time this was only a minor setback and one day you'll start to feel better. Just focus on yourself think positively and take it one day at a time. Don't be hard on yourself if you hit a bump on the road it's only part of the journey. Edited September 16, 2013 by Peanut9330 1
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