clareD Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Hi I had an EA then a PA with my neighbour. We were very close and spoke all the time. We are both married but his wife had moved out and he led me to believe it was completely over. My marriage is not good. Anyway after about 3 months he decided to give his wife another chance he didnt tell me that was why he was ending things with me. Instead he said our relationship was "not healthy". Three days later he tells me they are giving it another go. I have been really upset as I miss him alot. I did think this would be the end of it and we would just go back to saying hi over the fence. But the last week or so he has messaged me quite alot, just little things but at least once a day. Thanking me for things he has no need to/knocking to borrow things and then texting hours later saying thanks when he has already thanked me/just little things like this constantly. He has also told me he thinks it is not going to work with his wife again and telling me about the arguments etc. I can hear them rowing now through the wall. He has also told me I can't move because I am his neighbour and that I looked gorgeous when he knocked the other day. It feels wrong. Is this still an EA if we are confiding in each other and talking most days? I feel like my head is all over the place and wish I lived miles away so I could just try and put it all out of my mind. xx
Philosoraptor Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 If neither of you are happy with your current partners you should save everyone extended pain by ending both of your marriages. Then you are free to be with whomever you want without sleeping around. Currently, he's using you as an option for when he's "off" with his wife. When they're back on you're not good enough anymore. Having his cake and eating it too. 2
velvette Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Hi I had an EA then a PA with my neighbour. We were very close and spoke all the time. We are both married but his wife had moved out and he led me to believe it was completely over. My marriage is not good. Anyway after about 3 months he decided to give his wife another chance he didnt tell me that was why he was ending things with me. Instead he said our relationship was "not healthy". Three days later he tells me they are giving it another go. I have been really upset as I miss him alot. I did think this would be the end of it and we would just go back to saying hi over the fence. But the last week or so he has messaged me quite alot, just little things but at least once a day. Thanking me for things he has no need to/knocking to borrow things and then texting hours later saying thanks when he has already thanked me/just little things like this constantly. He has also told me he thinks it is not going to work with his wife again and telling me about the arguments etc. I can hear them rowing now through the wall. He has also told me I can't move because I am his neighbour and that I looked gorgeous when he knocked the other day. It feels wrong. Is this still an EA if we are confiding in each other and talking most days? I feel like my head is all over the place and wish I lived miles away so I could just try and put it all out of my mind. xx It sounds like you were a convenient comfort when his wife moved out and now you are again providing comfort conveniently and he's keeping things going as a back up plan to his wife leaving again. 4
ComingInHot Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 clairD, it appears you are using him as a convenient way to fill wants/needs that are missing in your Own M. Now His W is back and it makes things much less convenient. Have you considered working on your own M or D'ing? Why do You stay in a "bad" M? If this A comes to light, and depending on the "neighborhood" you live in, the fallout could and most likely will be catastrophic for You, and your entire family. Bw careful with this one, as in a neighborhood you'd be surprised Who is watching... on purpose OR accidentally*
mea_M Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Hi I had an EA then a PA with my neighbour. We were very close and spoke all the time. We are both married but his wife had moved out and he led me to believe it was completely over. My marriage is not good. Anyway after about 3 months he decided to give his wife another chance he didnt tell me that was why he was ending things with me. Instead he said our relationship was "not healthy". Three days later he tells me they are giving it another go. I have been really upset as I miss him alot. I did think this would be the end of it and we would just go back to saying hi over the fence. But the last week or so he has messaged me quite alot, just little things but at least once a day. Thanking me for things he has no need to/knocking to borrow things and then texting hours later saying thanks when he has already thanked me/just little things like this constantly. He has also told me he thinks it is not going to work with his wife again and telling me about the arguments etc. I can hear them rowing now through the wall. He has also told me I can't move because I am his neighbour and that I looked gorgeous when he knocked the other day. It feels wrong. Is this still an EA if we are confiding in each other and talking most days? I feel like my head is all over the place and wish I lived miles away so I could just try and put it all out of my mind. xx Yeah.. Don't go there. Instead, look at your marriage and think long and hard about its current state. My bet, you'll find the answer as to why this guy has the appeal he does at this time in your life. Walk away now and save a potential disaster. Mea:)
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